Comment to old crush at club

[poppykittylily]

DP went clubbing the other night where he bumped into his old ‘almost-girlfriend’. I say almost because they both liked each other at the same time but nothing ever came to it in that they never kissed or anything!

DP’s friend told me that my DP greeted her with a hug (fine) but then said to her ‘I used to really really like you. Do you have a boyfriend now?’

AIBU to think this is crossing a boundary? DP says he was just drunk and just lost his inhibitions and that I shouldn’t be angry because nothing happened.

It’s probably absolutely nothing and DP’s ‘friend’ is a god-awful stirrer who should have said nothing and probably only said something to wind you up.

I agree with dolly - his friend is a stirrer. I would worry, though. How long have you two been seeing each other?

Hmmm, I wouldn’t be happy about it but as PP said, the friend is a meddling twat and should’ve just kept quiet.

I dont think this is appropriate. Either statement on their own is maybe ok. Like I used to like you, isn't it funny how things change. Or I'm seeing someone lovely, do you have a boyfriend? But I used to really like you, do you have a boyfriend, unpromoted, does imply he is interested

Nah, wouldn't bother me. But yes, I would think his friend was a dick and all him what he hoped to achieve by telling me.

was the friend blatantly stirring /joking about it / annoyed because its inappropriate? why did they tell you?
yes it is inappropriate, he would've sounded like he was interested in something happening to the woman whether he was or not.

Ah the one that got away! I have one of these (don’t we all?) and I can guess that I might say something similar if I bumped into him unexpectedly when I was drunk. I love my DH very much btw! I wouldn’t read too much into it OP.

Thanks everyone. DP’s friend mentioned it because he ‘thought I should know’ as they used to have a thing for each other

^^ oops! Name change fail

The DP’s friend is someone I’d be wary of! Sounds like a weirdly over-invested, shit stirrer and a creep.

I would say something like this to someone too. If i did really then I wouldn't have s problem saying so, particularly as I am married and definitely not interested anymore. ' Used to' meaning just that. I would also ask if they had a partner, because I'm a nosey bastard. Don't read into something that is potentially nothing.

Well he's a good friend....do you get on with this bloke? Seems very strange that he would tell you that unless he's after you....