To leave my husband?

[Fedupmum88]

Married for 2 years. Have two children together who have SEN.

He isn’t abusive but very unsupportive. Not interested in attending hospital appointments. Doesn’t get up in the night with them. Very little patience when the children are being difficult.

Would I be unreasonable to leave him for this reason? Honestly sometimes I feel like he’s a third child as all his is does is create more mess/laundry for me.

I’m a little worried about the financial side of things as I'm not currently working as I’m a Carer for my disabled children. Would we be able to stay in the house? We bought it together 8 years ago but I was the one that paid the deposit.

Many thanks for any advice you can give

If you don’t want to be with him - regardless of the reason - it is not unreasonable to leave him.

Have you discussed this with him? Do you have reason to believe he would fight you for the house given that it is his children’s home?

I’ve asked him to leave before when we’ve argued but he’s refused.

I don’t think he’d want to stay here as we bought the house in my home town and he’s always talked about wanting to move back ‘home’ (only 4 miles away).

I would discuss him moving out when not arguing. Noone goes along with the other person's suggestion when they're in the middle of a fight.

I think if you are unhappy in the marriage then you are perfectly reasonable to want to fix it by either divorce or attending counselling together if that's preferable to both parties. Have you discussed his lack of involvement already and nothing has changed?

I would get proper legal advice regarding the house.

Parenting is hard. Having a person who is supposed to love and care for you just sit and watch you do it all rather than help is soul destroying

*KetoWithIF

YANBU to want to leave HIM but you can't reasonably ask him to leave the house just because you are the children's carer.
Reasonably you can sell and divide the asset. Make a fresh start each.*

Or she could look at buying him out if that's doable. Or she gets the house as part of the divorce settlement and he gets a greater percentage of other assets.

Thanks for the replies. I’d love to buy him out but unfortunately don’t have the funds at the moment.

I’ve talked to him m before about his lack of help/selfishness but nothing ever changes.

I think it’s fair if he leaves as he has a full time job and his parents are separated with spare bedrooms on each house. I don’t have anywhere to go.