To tell him no..

[Unreasonable123]

Partner (kids dad) hasn’t took a single day off in the 6 weeks school holiday. He works FT and I work PT at 2 days a week.

We have 2 kids, 1 has severe SEN.

As I said above he hasn’t took a single day off.

Our daughter had a hospital app on a working day of mine to get a cast off. I asked if he could do it and he said no.

Another day normal childcare fell through and I asked if he could cover it, he said no as he was too busy at work.

I took both days off work and used special leave from my work.

He’s now told me on his next pay day he’s taking the day off and him and a friend are going to go out drinking all day and have a break.

I think he’s taking the piss. Iv said no... AIBU.

He pays most bills if that makes a difference.

He sounds like an arrogant arse.

He’s now invited me out for the day...

Are you pleased OP? Is he trying to make up for his uselessness?

If i were you I would probably organise something to do with your friends for the day and leave before he does so he has the responsibility for looking after the children, after all - he has the day off and you want to 'have a break' as much as he does. If he complains tell him it's tough, part of having children is looking after them.

If it is a school day let him organise getting them to school and tell him you will be xx miles away at the spa/cinema/up a mountain so he needs to be sober enough to care for his children.

And as for trying to assuage his guilt by inviting you out, is he expecting you to join him and his friends drinking, inviting you to be non drinking driver or actually taking you on a proper day out? Is he organising childcare or does that fall to you?

Whatever happens, I think you need to have a serious talk with him about responsibilities.

Suggest he takes his kids out for the day instead and gives you a day off!!

Honestly I’m not even bothered about going.

Kids will be in school so it’s to much effort arranging someone to collect them etc.

He said we can get an Uber home so he wants me to drink as well.

Iv said I can’t be bothered to go.