Is he selfish or am I been a brat

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My DS had his first ever ever fit yesterday. Never experienced something so horrific in all my life. He wasn't good we came a and e and they sent us home. 2 hours later DS asked me can we go on a bus ride so I left with him and DD. He seemed fine then about 5 mins after leaving it happened. As I'm on the phone to 999 my "DH" started to text saying get off the phone, family comes first. Stop tellin ur friends about him" I only have 1 friend genuinely who I speak to daily and she still doesn't know I'm in hospital I don't want to worry her as I'm on holiday and about an hour away.

But I stayed with DS as you do. Done my best to explain everything to docs what happened and he took DD home who is an angel !! He came back first thing with a change of clothes (no essential tooth brush I asked for but I can't moan I guess ) when he got here he's sat on phone to his fake family who don't see my kids keeping them updated -I hate that!! just been annoying why I'm 5months pregnant runnin around a hospital after 2 toddlers.
My mum makes it to the hospital to take DD an offers to take me back the holiday house for a shower an get the stuff I need as he will forget an get me some food as I have none and the hospital shop is charity run so doesn't have much! He says I'm taking the piss asking to do that an went on. So I just came back to DS! He then goes to the holiday home straight as I get back to the ward and texts me saying il be a couple hours. I'm so pissed off the fact he knows I'm starving, had an hours sleep, no shower no nothing an he just texts that like it's okay? I can't stomach the toast they keep offering me (not been ungrestful) just baby puts me off everything these days so wanted get something proper whilst my mum was their. He said I'm been an ungreatful brat as he's done everything. Give him his due he's helped kore then he's ever bothered before just annoyed he puts himself first? I wasn't asking much I don't think just could I get a shower an some food why my mum had DD!!!!! He went home. Ate had a shower. Had a sleep. Arghhhhh

Sounds like DH only really cares about himself. You're 5 months pregnant the least he could do is bring you food and stay at the hospital with the kids to give you a break. He's selfish.

He’s selfish but if I’m honest you both sound quite dramatic and immature. I don’t understand why you’re upset he contacts his family, or why he cares if you call your friends. Have an adult conversation about your issues and stop texting each other, it’s usually the best way for miscommunication to happen.

@poowillybumbum
I mean it annoys me they only seem be bothered because he's in hospital. They've not seen either kids since Xmas .
And we text because I'm in the hospital I feel rude been on the phone why kids are here really ill so will just text him if needed. Otherwise we don't speak on the phone. If he needs me he rings or speak when he's home

i dont think youve been a brat. It sounds really difficult and it doesnt sound like hes taking care of you at all. Certainly not being kind.
Does he usually act more loving??

My mum makes it to the hospital to take DD an offers to take me back the holiday house for a shower an get the stuff I need as he will forget an get me some food as I have none and the hospital shop is charity run so doesn't have much! He says I'm taking the piss asking to do that an went on.

How long would that have taken? If it's less than a couple of hours, can he not see how hypocritical he's been?

So I just came back to DS! He then goes to the holiday home straight as I get back to the ward and texts me saying il be a couple hours.

@Branleuse yes and no??? but these past few weeks we've really been trying to make a go of it and making sure we put each other first and doing dinner out again and having game nights like monopoly etc So I was expecting him to be different in this situation. He came back around 5.15 and he was totally different and made me go get a shower an get settled and he took over when they did his tests etc so I do feel abit better I think hormones. Lack of sleep and this situation been worried sick hasn't helped and I feel he's got the brunt of it with me but he came back and stepped up so I cried with relief ??? I'm a blubbering mess these days

@LannieDuck well 15 mins their and 15 mins back. I literally jump in an out the shower. Takes 2 seconds dry my hair it's that thin an I don't straighten it and to pack a bag of my essentials an I was only getting a makkies or something eat in the car so most an hour. X

So why was it ok for him to take a couple of hours, and for you not to take an hour?

Why are you having another child with this man?

From the erratic and badly written style of your posts I'm guessing you are in a really angry, frustrated and fed up mood. It's written the way I can imagine you having a "this is the last straw" rant. So is he normally so shit? Because you seem like you've put up with a lot, and you have finally flipped. Are you actually happy?

Once your son is back home and health is OK you should start thinking really hard about what you want. You are both behaving in a really immature way, and you probably don't bring out the best in each other. It's like you're trying to make each other worse.

@LannieDuck I can see why it's easier for him as he drives and I don't hut I still would of enjoyed the hours break away. He never sees the easy solution at times ? And @Lulualla he's suffering with really bad depression at the moment so it isn't helping anything. We've been together since we was 17 I love him the world just having a really bad time the past 6 weeks. I was so upset earlier today though just wanted a shoulder to cry on as I'm not newr home for family to come or help out. He came back a totally different person an one I was glad to have. Far from immature as we have 3 businesses and we work well as a team we don't try being the worst out just a stressful time and we hit logger heads today I think.

OP I recognised you from previous posts. The man is an abuser. You’re back with him and pregnant after being helped to move away?? He is an evil and useless cunt and you need lots of support and help to get out from his bullshit. In the nicest possible way, you need deep therapy. No good will come of being back with this man. None at all. Please see your GP or if you’ve still got a social worker or someone from the DV team.