Aibu to feel relieved my son is moving out

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My son and his pregnant partner are living at mine but are moving to there own flat in a couple of days. In the last couple of weeks I feel I have been totally walked over. My son has been rude to me, she sometimes ignores me and gets stressy. They both are not tidying up after themselves anymore. When I ask them to do something I am nagging and upsetting them. I have helped them out financially to help them get the flat. I feel totally deflated and feel guilty that I am relieved they are going, although I will miss them. Is it normal to feel like this.

Not at all and after how they’ve treated you I’d go low to no contact with them for a while! Let them get on with it and have a well deserved rest!

Low/no contact sounds harsh, @skittlenommer!
Adult offspring living with parents is always tricky. It's an odd dynamic. They tend to expect the privileges of childhood, but want to be treated as adults. It takes hard conversations to make it a success, and if they are young adults they can lack that maturity.
Ime there need to be some re-negotiating of relationships as adult:adult, and it's much easier to do that when you aren't living under the same roof.

YANBU. People should get their s**t together before reproducing.

Low/no contact sounds harsh

I’m not saying forever! But just to afford OP a break from them because they sound like they’ve been a pain in the arse. Time to take some time back, have a chill and enjoy the peace!

Yes, I hear you Skittles

Not at all. I love my son but when he moved in for 6months this year was hard. He is an adult used to his own space. Try as l might it's hard not to treat him like my child still a d tell him to tidy his room Think we were both happy when he moved out to his own place again. I have actually told him that's the last time he can live here again. Obviously l would let him come back in a crisis but I'm not telling him that