Wwyd if DP said this to you?

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Asked new bf of 6 months if he ever thought about being single, his reply- sometimes I think about being single but then again I don't think I'd much luck so I'm grateful I've got you

Don't ask a question if you're not genuinely prepared to hear the answer.

This. I think if I asked my bf that question he'd panic that I was about to dump him. He might come up with a similar answer if, in a panic, he was trying to reassure me that he would cope if we split up but he would rather we didn't.

Without knowing tone and context and basically being a mindreader it's impossible to know exactly what he meant by it. Well it is possible - you'll have to ask him. But it does sound either as if you're very needy or as if you're trying to prepare him for being dumped.

It is setting someone up to fail because it is almost impossible to give the right answer

My DH would agree with you - it's what he calls a Nuclear Question ie warning! warning! claxons should be going off

Impossible for anyone to know how to take that. You don’t, and you have the benefit of knowing him for 6 months AND knowing the context.

Stupid question, stupid answer.

My WWYD range from giving him a playful “damn right no-one else would have you!” to a “honey, this isn’t like you - is everything OK?” to “just fuck off, I’m done with your shit”.

Presumably he was supposed to say something like:

God no. I’d be devastated if we were not together!

Or

Yes, and I pinch myself every day when I think how lucky I am to have you!

Why did you ask him that?

I think he had good intentions but that came out badly.

Why ask that? You were clearly fishing for him to say oh no how could I think about ever being apart from you? And no answer apart from one of an undying declaration of live would make you happy I’m sure.