Help please! Medical management miscarriage and bleeding

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I'm sorry to be one of those posters that posts in AIBU without an AIBU but I'm keen for some traffic!

I'm due in the hospital for medical management of a missed miscarriage that was discovered yesterday.

As I don't live within a certain mile radius of the hospital I'm having to stay on the ward and possibly overnight!

I've started bleeding this morning. I will ring them when I can get out of the house for some proper signal but I'm keen to just see how it goes and not go on Monday if it's happening naturally? Has this happened to anyone? They didn't tell me what to do in this situation when I was there and I stupidly didn't ask in my upset daze. I really don't want to have to stay in hospital unnecessarily as it's miles away

Ok-firstly, I’m sorry you’re in such a difficult situation. Hope you are as ok as can be under the circumstances.

Assuming you have spoken to the ward by now, but if not, you should be fine to stay at home as long as:

You aren’t soaking through a pad in under an hour
You can manage your pain
You don’t have smelly discharge
You don’t feel unwell/hot/shivery.

Really, you should have someone at home with you, in case of emergency, especially as it sounds like you are remote.

If the situation changes re:: above symptoms then seek help immediately.

I had this a couple of weeks ago - so sorry you are going through this it’s awful! The ward were happy for me to stay at home so long as I had someone with me who could get me to hospital if needed. I was told that I needed to go back in if I soaked through a nighttime pad in less than 30mins or if I had pain that could not be controlled by over the counter painkillers. I was also told it’s okay to take paracetamol or codeine but not to take ibruprofen as it could actually make the pain worse.

Also just as a warning, I had light bleeding for a few days before the actual miscarriage and the ward were happy for me to stay home and cancelled me going in once I started passing some clots. To be honest I was relieved once it actually happened. I think a MMC is awful because of the waiting and not really knowing what to expect. Take it easy, be kind to yourself and make sure you drink of water. X

Also it’s definitely not stupid not to ask things when you first receive the news. I remember just being in the room wanting desperately to get out so that I could go someone where private and sob!