To feel a bit left out?

[Lily2811]

DH sister getting married. Been together 3 years, married for a year. Wasn't invited to hen do. MIL, SIL, etc all getting hair and make up done on the morning of wedding. Not included in that. Neither me or DH involved in transport plans in getting to the wedding. DH not part of wedding party.

Honestly I think that's normal !

The hen do is out of order the rest no-groom picks his ushers and best man usually and only the bridal party have their hair done together

TBF it depends on who else was invited to hen do. If it was her old friends and not her mil to be etc then I wouldn't have an issue

I'd be happy and wouldn't expect or want to be part of the wedding party or getting ready with the bride as a SIL.

I didn't invite my DH's sister to my hen do. She's nice enough, but we're very different people, and not close.

Ditto to what pps have said about the bridal party.

I didn’t have my DHs sister at my hen and she wasn’t included in any transport/hair/make up etc. I like her well enough but she’s never made any effort to be friends and we aren’t in regular contact.

"MIL, SIL, etc all getting hair and make up done on the morning of wedding"

Is that's the brides mum and sister? Pretty normal for them to be part of the wedding party and therefore involved in prep in the morning. Sister in Law is not the same relationship as sister. Maybe brides have their sister as bridesmaid, few would have their SIL as bridesmaid.

I don’t think DH or I would expect to be part of sils wedding. I can’t think what role DH would or I would play; my bil wasn’t involved in the wedding party for ours and wasn’t invited to the stag do as while DH and bil get on they don’t really have a friendship outside of being in laws.
It’s busy enough with bridesmaids, mother of the bride and bride getting ready so I’d enjoy the time to get ready in peace; there’s nothing stopping you getting your hair done nicely

I think that’s all normal. It wouldn’t have occurred to me to invite my SIL to any of that and I like her a lot.

I was upset a few years back when my step mother was included in hen do and everything for her nephews wife but I wasn't. Felt it put me very much in my place as a step child.

I can understand your upset on that one.

The make up etc I expect she is paying for and you're not part of the bridal party so YABU on that one.

The hair and transport stuff would only have been for the bridal part so that's not weird.

Was it a big hen?

I’m afraid that sounds normal to me too. It’s what we did at our wedding (although SIL threw a tantrum) and it’s what she did at hers, although DH ended up doing a lot of things behind-the-scenes to help things go smoothly.