baby shower etiquette - when baby is born?

[alifemoreorlessordinary]

So I went to my first baby shower a couple of months ago, daughter of a friend, bought a gift; now baby has been born I have bought a "congratulations" type card, but should I include a gift as well? Before baby showers were around ("in my day..."), I would have got a card and a gift when the baby was born.
WIBU just to just give the congrats card now, or should I include a(nother) gift?

I imagine a second gift is expected. But I’ve never been invited to a baby shower ...

Just a card if you gave gift at shower is perfectly acceptable x

I don't think anyone should expect any gift anyway so just a gift at the baby shower (or the other way round) is fine I think x

Personally I think you don't need to give a gift again but if you feel awkward about how about just a small box of chocolates for the mum or a cheap photo frame with a printed photo of the baby in it ?

I’d just give her some flowers or a small gift for the mum if you are visiting her. Otherwise send a card. I do think it’s weird handing people a card as I always think cards are for when you can’t express whatever sentiment it is in person.

Don't print a picture of someone's else's child that you haven't even met yet, as suggested above. That's just weird.

ok, thank you, I gave a very nice/naice gift at the baby shower, but feel a bit mean giving just a card; I thought maybe cards were for keepsakes? Interesting view, pipandmum. I possibly won't be seeing her soon, as I said it's the daughter of a friend, so although I may see the friend I may not see the daughter (and baby) very soon, IYSWIM.

Send a card, most people keep all the new baby cards, I don't think it is weird at all. What a strange idea.

@AmIThough haha I hadn't thought about it that way 😂 , it's something that I received when I had my baby but didn't really find it weird - maybe just the photo frame without a picture then haha !

Absolutely no to a second gift. You’re covered in the gift dept.

Please don’t clutter up their home with a cheap photo frame. The last thing you want to give the parent(s) is something else to clean.

Just send a card.

This is (one of the reasons) why I hate baby showers. Just send a card OP, especially if you're unlikely to see her soon.

No need to gift again- I said no gifts at my baby shower for this exact reason. It's confusing.

And I don't think many mum's expect gifts once the new one is here- they really just want your company. In fact the gifts I loved the most during the new baby stage were things I could eat and drink (cakes, chocolates, nice drinks even alcohol!!). Plus there's only so many gifted blankets your friend can use on one baby.

The few baby showers I have been to, I've given a gift for the mum to be, rather than the baby. And when the baby arrived I've given a card and gift for the baby (usually something like a book or an outfit)

Just a card. I strongly disagree with baby showers in general though, but expecting 2 presents is really bad. Just say 'Congratulations on baby Xs safe arrival, hope they enjoy the blah I got them/I'm sure they're only beautiful in the Paddington babygrow/whatever you got them'.

I would just send a card.