AIBU to cancel the holiday?

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I'm pretty sure it's the right decision but not 100%.

Holiday leaving tomorrow afternoon, back next Thurs. I am absolutely knackered from work and really looking forward to time with ds. My dad has had a minor stroke today - very unclear medical picture yet though it seems not too bad in itself, but he's very elderly. There are 3 of us, I'm not the nearest but not the furthest either. My dad's partner is too elderly to be involved and if he needs care he will probably have to live somewhere else.

I'm going to go and see him tomorrow morning but I'm pretty sure I have to cancel the holiday. Just wanting to get a chorus of 'yes of course you cancel'. Nothing is cancellable in terms of a refund, but I actually got travel insurance in time so apparently I might well get some money back which would be a bonus.

I’d say forget the money. It’s your Dad. I speak from bitter experience.

Where is the holiday? Have you discussed this with your siblings?
There isn’t much you can actually DO, is there? Or would you be looking after your Mum, taking her to visit etc?

I would go unless there is an actual reason why you can’t.

I'm so grateful to all of you posting, especially when so many of you know what it's like

I'm going to cancel. It's such a tricky, messy situation, nothing is clear. I just don't think I could relax on a Spanish beach while wondering if he were going to be discharged into a total mess, which I would possibly have to pick up the pieces of when I get back, if the possibility of being 'the difficult daughter' might prevent that. DS certainly has needs but in fact we have already had one totally awesome holiday this year, this was an extra for the hell of it, and we will live quite happily without it.

I don't have the closest relationship with my dad so I will feel perfectly able to go away another time once things are a bit clearer and my siblings and I have worked out what we need to do.

Good to hear. I think you have done the right thing.Hope all works out OK for you.

It's a tough one and no right and wrong answer but IF medical professionals think he's ok and you have siblings to help him out I would go for the sake of your ds.

Sorry x posted. It sounds like it's the right decision for you to stay. Hope he gets discharged soon and is ok.

Sorry about your situation, you mention you have a sibling living closer to him, they should surely be able to cover while you go on your much deserved break for a few days!

Seen situations like this and many bed managers are happy to take reassurances from the patients and their families that things will be 'fine' with little to no social services/carers'/rehabilitation support.

YADNBU.

I'd pack my bags and go and see him first thing. He might be horrified by the idea of you cancelling and the staff could well say go. Then you will have a better idea as to whether to cancel or not.

It was the right choice to cancel. Sad at missing my restful trip but whatever. Just one of those things.