To say I'm annoyed that he doesn't buy me anything?

[Darkbloom]

Me and DP have been together for a few years now. I've always been generous but sensible with money but my DP is quite selfish when it comes to money. If he gets an extra £100 from work, he will spend it on himself.

I had a big birthday last year and he had a bonus from work, I didn't get a single thing other than a card from him.

The only thing he has brought me is a box of chocolates for Valentine's day. Never anything for birthdays or Christmas in fact.

I did this previously in a relationship where the guy I was with took my generosity for granted. How can I make sure this doesn't happen again or at least put a stop to it before it gets any worse?

Well......have you talked to him about it?

Why doesn't he buy you birthday gifts? That's not normal.

Just tell him that you will be returning the compliment on his next birthday / Xmas by getting him bugger all, and get him exactly that...bugger all.

I do hope you aren't buying him gifts if so, stop.
It's terrible that he doesn't get you a gift for birthdays or Xmas. Says a lot of about he views you, IMO.

How can I make sure this doesn't happen again or at least put a stop to it before it gets any worse?

How could it get any worse? If he stopped buying you Xmas/birthday cards too?

What happens when you go out for meals or coffee? Do you go Dutch every single time?

I did this previously in a relationship where the guy I was with took my generosity for granted. How can I make sure this doesn't happen again or at least put a stop to it before it gets any worse?

You start by dumping thoughtless, selfish people and not dating again until you work on yourself and learn to spot them so you can dump them pronto.

Forget talking to him, you cannot change a person's inherent traits once they're well into adulthood.

This is who he is. He's tight and thoughtless. If you want to waste your life with a man like this than continue to see him. If you want something else end it.

Tell him point blank.
You got me a card for my birthday, so we agree we only do cards .
Then get yourself a massive amount of gifts delivered.

Is he generous in other ways? Does he do things for you, compliment you, help you out?

Some people show their love differently- google Love languages.

If He doesn't buy you gifts metion it, have a chat like grown ups about what you expect and come to a solution, that could end up with him making more effort with gifts or it could mean you stop gift buying. We can't always expect people to treat us in the smae way we treat them.

He sounds mean.
Why do you put up with this?.

Ask him about it.
If he’s generally miserly, then make a decision as to whether you want to be with someone like that.
If he’s quite chilled about birthdays etc and isn’t in the habit of giving/receiving gifts, then you guys can discuss what you’d both like to do going forward (either neither of you give/receive gifts, or you both do).

I would probably leave him too. It's not about receiving a gift, but the lack of thought. Even a small token gift would be better than nothing if money was tights. My boyfriend spends a small fortune on my daughter and I no matter how often I tell him not to. You deserve someone who wants to make the little moments special for you. Just ask him outright why he doesn't do it, see what he says and decide what you want to do about it.

How exactly could it get any worse with this mean man OP.

It's not about the item, it's about the thought.

You are in a relationship with a mean, selfish man.

That should be your focus OP. Is this what you want for your future.