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Neighbours and parking

171 replies

rainbowheart · 23/08/2019 12:15

I've lived on the same street for 20 years, buying my childhood home when my parents sold it.
The house is down a narrowish lane and I'm the very end house. There's a pull in which makes it easier for myself and my neighbours to get off of our drives.
For as long as I've know there's always been an agreement that people will avoid parking in the pull in wherever possible, because if 2 cars are parked there it's very difficult for me and my neighbour to get out, we have to reverse about half a mile down the lane if we cant turn in the turning point. It only effects our 2 houses, everyone else can exit their drives fine.
Sometimes it's unavoidable and that's fine, if people are having lots of guests over etc, workmen to their houses.. things happen.
The house next to my neighbours house was sold 3 months back.. new people moved in. My neighbour explain the parking situation and they said it was no problem. And for the first few months everything was as it had always been,
One day my baby took ill and I had to call an ambulance.. the ambulance parked on the lane in-front of my house blocking my neighbour, my husband rushed home and parked behind the ambulance, blocking the new neighbours driveway.
The new neighbours knocked the door asking for the car to move, the ambulance driver explained baby was poorly and asked if they could just hold fire and she'd get my husband to move the car. 10 mins later she knocked again the ambulance driver apologised and said she'd get it moved,
My husband went to move the car and the new neighbour said it's about time she was going to be late.
There's a lot of old people who live down our lane and ambulances are fairly common, when it happens, especially further down the lane, everyone is blocked in, never have I moaned in that situation, even when it's meant I've been late or missed appointments, surly that ambulance is likely to be far more important than anything I need to do at that time,
Since the day I called the ambulance the new neighbours now park both their cars in the pull in, leaving their driveway empty I feel this is really petty and pathetic. I've knocked and asked if they could park at least one car on their drive as before, the woman said she's entitled to park her car wherever she likes, obviously she is.. but would you not also be considerate of your neighbours?
For the last 2 weeks 2 cars arrive every morning at 6am, they move their cars from the pull in and the other cars park there.. the 2 drivers get into the van with the difficult neighbour and I assume go to work, she parks her car on her drive.. when they get home from work the 2 cars go and the move both their cars to the pull in so the turning point always has 2 cars parked in it, day and night.

What are you views on this situation? As I've said I do get she can park her car wherever she likes, I just don't understand why they insist on making it difficult. I don't know if I'm just being touchy because it all started when my baby was poorly and maybe I'm being too emotional about it? Any ideas on how to resolve it?

OP posts:
WillLokireturn · 23/08/2019 22:19

That is incredibly sad @InterestingView.

Lochroy · 23/08/2019 22:35

How kind of your NDN to park in the pull in so that you can turn round on their drive. Two fingers to the twats Grin

rainbowheart · 23/08/2019 22:40

@InterestingView that's awful, I just can't get my head around it, other people's misfortunes seem to be entertainment these days. There was a major incident on my local high street, someone was stabbed.. I found out because people were live streaming it live on Facebook!!

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Lulualla · 23/08/2019 22:42

@InterestingView

Most people didn't know. Centre Parcs didn't close the area or put out an announcement for the area to be cleared. The people right there when it happened knew, but it's a big area and new families wete coming in all the time. They had no idea anything had happened.
Once the paramedics arrived, screens wete put up and people c9uld obviously hear the mum, but you wouldn't hear that until you got in there. Centre Parcs should have closed the area.

katewhinesalot · 23/08/2019 22:54

Good idea to check the legality of blocking a turning circle.

Crazyfrog007 · 23/08/2019 22:57

Why don't you or your neighbours block the cars into the turning space? Mega inconvenience to twatty neighbours then. Just disappear for the day so they can't get anywhere....

AnAC12UCOinanOCG · 24/08/2019 01:17

NoSquirrels I can't see the diagram but I believe you! What an annoying situation for the OP.

WhyBirdStop · 24/08/2019 01:32

Buy an old banger, park it in the turning spot so there is room to turn but not enough room to park a second car. Put a sign on the dash that says go fuck yourself.

Pussysgalore · 24/08/2019 04:49

What utter twats! I just don't understand people that enjoy making life difficult for other people! Sad

DdraigGoch · 24/08/2019 05:27

Park on their drive. There'd nothing the police or the council could do about it as it's private land and they'd have to try a civil claim for trespass instead which would take ages.

Directionless2019 · 24/08/2019 06:47

To those that are saying they'd put nails down, use paint stripper, slash tyres, let tyres down etc of course you wouldn't so stop trying to sound 'hard'.

Shebertherbert · 24/08/2019 06:47

My neighbour tried interfering with my car parking space. I complained to the community council and the main council. I was advised it was harrassment and a police issue. But within a week he had, had a visit from a community council member to have a chat about it. Then council sent out the community warden too. I complained only to have an official record of a complaint. But they did take it seriously. If he starts again I will ring the police. I have it recorded that he's got a history of doing it. He runs away when he see's me now.

Auramigraine · 24/08/2019 06:54

aquashiv

..maybe get yourself a road sign off a cock crossed out with a flashing light ontop .

😂😂😂😂😂😂

In all seriousness though OP how sad that these selfish people exist. Do they have children?
I don’t see why you should apologise to be honest, At least your other neighbours are more considerate and are by your side. They are making enemy’s of everyone and that’s not going to be a nice atmosphere for them.
I don’t know what I would do in all honesty but good on your neighbour for parking there. Hopefully soon they will realise they are acting like knobs and will stop.

Thegracefuloctopus · 24/08/2019 07:08

What a sad little life they must lead. And I love that you have labeled them 'TWATS' on the diagram!!
In my head I would be slashing tyres. In reality, I would silently seeth until they thought it didn't bother me at all and gave up. They're spending their lives planning to make parking difficult for you. That so sad.

eurochick · 24/08/2019 07:30

I think I'd leave a message with a non apology. Something like "I'm sorry that the ambulance and my husband rushing to our sick baby inconvenienced you once but now you are making it hard for all your neighbours, everyday. We have lived here for fifty years without this ever being a problem before. Please stop parking in the turning area, or we will have to request parking restrictions, which will mean that no one can use the area to stop in occasionally, which we have all found helpful in the past."

Dangerfloof · 24/08/2019 07:45

To those that are saying they'd put nails down, use paint stripper, slash tyres, let tyres down etc of course you wouldn't so stop trying to sound 'hard'.
I haven't said it, I've done it though. I asked very nicely if next door could move their car over, they said 5 minutes. I waited, knocked again, told 5 minutes. Waited, knocked a final time, told 10 minutes. Lost my rag and stabbed tyre wall with big kitchen knife.
Not proud of myself. But it did stop the cf from parking so far over on a shared drive.
Does that make me "hard"

SockMachine · 24/08/2019 07:46

They are deeply selfish and insensitive people (ambulance) but I wonder if the use of the pull in was co incidental, and they just started doing it to reserve space for the van to come?

SockMachine · 24/08/2019 07:48

“Lost my rag and stabbed tyre wall with big kitchen knife.
Not proud of myself. But it did stop the cf from parking so far over on a shared drive.
Does that make me "hard"”

No it makes you a criminal with serious anger issues.

PegasusReturns · 24/08/2019 08:04

Could you and your ND neighbour just park in the lane between the pull in and unreasonable neighbours house, meaning that every time they wanted to exit the pull in they'd have to ask you to move?

It'd be a few days if inconvenience for you and ND neighbour but you could then say to the ND isn't this ridiculous let's just behave like adults.

I'd find it extremely hard to apologise for blocking them in during a medical emergency

RebootYourEngine · 24/08/2019 08:14

I hate people who move to a new house and try and change the way things have been done for years. I would be reporting them to the LA and the police. It's dangerous having to reverse down your road.

BruceAndNosh · 24/08/2019 08:14

Could you and your ND neighbour just park in the lane between the pull in and unreasonable neighbours house, meaning that every time they wanted to exit the pull in they'd have to ask you to move?
Assuming OP diagram is accurate, this is a good idea. It's slightly less antagonistic to block them out of the turning area, but harder to manage since they use it all the time.
Maybe over the weekend it might be empty?

(also OP, is there a subliminal message in your diagram with the shadow forming a giant cock and balls looming over the neighbourhood?Grin)

JollyAndBright · 24/08/2019 08:39

This is going to sound silly but are you sure they know it’s a turning area and not ‘guest’ parking that you use for turning?

I just wondered if they thought it was parking spaces that you use for turning that could justifiably park in those spaces to inconvenience you the way you inconvenienced them..... it’s pathetic but it makes more sense in my mind than them choosing to park in what they know in a turning area, I mean they could just be batshit, and it would still be incredibly patty but it’s possible.

I would go round and ask why they are parking actively ensuring they have cars parking across the turning area at all times rather than parking on their drive, I’d ask if they mistakenly thought it was extra parking and explain it’s actually for you and ndn to use to get onto your drives.

If they are combative and refused to stop parking there I would then start parking in front of their cars making parking there as inconvenient for them as possible.

Directionless2019 · 24/08/2019 08:46

''Not proud of myself. But it did stop the cf from parking so far over on a shared drive.
Does that make me "hard"

No it makes you a criminal and an absolute idiot. Who the hell does that? You clearly have a lot of issues.

Surfskatefamily · 24/08/2019 08:51

Can you reverse into your driveway rather than enter forward so you don't have this issue when people are parked in the pull in

Lulualla · 24/08/2019 08:54

@Surfskatefamily
RTFT. That's been explained a number of times.

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