To contact csa/cms??

[Blitzcreek]

Ds 14 has stopped seeing his dad overnight and cut down on visiting. Current arrangements with ex over maintenance include 3 days and two overnights a week at his. As this is no longer happening am I unreasonable to ask for more maintenance??

Ex has been paying below what the csa worked out for years as he said he couldn't afford it. If ds needed anything and ex bought it he would deduct it from maintenance. Now ex's income has more than doubled (he won't tell me but I've googled his profession) should I ask for more after being "nice" and letting him pay less for years??

Absolutely contact them!

Perfectly reasonable. You don't have to be a dick about it (he sounds like the dick!) but just say you don't know what's a reasonable amount so you're asking the experts for an unbiased view.

I've looked on the calculator and on the lowest salary of his profession it shows an increase in payments. Will forward it to him and wait for him to kick off.

Thanks

Dont forward it to him. Call CMS today and open a case. Let them deal with it; there is absolutely no point in going up again him when you know he won't discuss it civilly or agree. For God's sake, when he buys something for his child he takes the money away from you. He isn't going to pay you more.

Just go to CMS.

Don’t talk to him, just open a case. Baker boobs words it well.

Definitely don’t speak to him, just go straight to them

Thinking it through you're all right. I feel like I should let him know as a courtesy but I don't owe him that. I owe him absolutely nothing. I know he's going to kick off at me but why do I care?? I'm haven't seen him in months and only communicate through text.

Just worried he will take it out on ds instead