Re : Fidget toys. This was written by my daughter when she was in Year 10. She attended a school where expectations of conformity were high (you can’t get more rigid than classical ballet training) but their SEN support was outstanding.
I am Autistic. I am able to function most of the time like a normal human being, but my condition affects me in a very real way.
I have meltdowns, which are basically a sensory overload. Imagine you are in a room and the walls are shrinking down on you. They’re distorting in on you, and you can’t focus on anything properly.
It’s like you have headphones on 10% volume, and they’re suddenly turned up to 100%. You can hear things that you never normally notice; the lights are buzzing overhead, the water is rushing through the walls, and it’s too much.
You can feel the shirt on your back, prickling into your skin. Tights and socks are hell-they itch. Any skin-on-skin contact feels like you’ve been injected by a million needles.
You have an overwhelming urge to run. To run to somewhere where no one can get in (usually a toilet cubicle) and hide yourself away.
From there on, it gets worse. You let out the breath you didn’t realise you had been holding, and you begin strained, difficult breathing. You can’t think. You want to, but you can’t because it’s TOO MUCH.
Autistic people, myself included, often ‘stim’. It can be a hand-clapping sequence, or clicking a pen, or kicking a table. The repetitive motion of the stim grounds; it focuses and allows us to carry on our lives in a somewhat normal manner, even if there is a meltdown trigger. But these stims can distract other people.
If I’m in a meltdown, having a fidget toy reduces slightly the overload I feel, resulting in a much faster calm-down. It can help bring my senses back down to a ‘safe’ level where my world is not crashing down around me.
Fidget toys, whether spinners, cubes or marbles in mesh, were designed for the Autistic, for those with Anxiety, for those with ADHD, for those with ADD.
I often have people tell me, “They’re so satisfying!” But for me, they are not about satisfaction. They are the difference between coping in class or missing parts of my education because I’m in meltdown. Once it’s in my hands, it becomes so repetitive that I don’t think about it, unless I’m trying to keep a meltdown at bay.
I don’t mind people having fidget toys for fun, I really don’t. It is when they are passed around classes, marvelled at, and then confiscated by a teacher that I have an issue. If you get fidget toys banned in your school, it will make the fight for people who need them so much harder.
Whenever I am asked if someone can have a go, I always reply no. It’s my coping mechanism and I don’t want to let go of it.
I’m just asking everyone to be considerate. Use them outside of classes, but they should stay in the pocket during class unless you actually need them. And fidget spinners, I find, are incredibly distracting and counter-intuitive to my concentration, as they are eye-catching. It’s the latest ‘fad’, I know, but they will never be a fad for me. I will probably depend on my cube for years after they have faded away.
Please take this into consideration so that we can all learn in an environment where those with certain needs can learn in a safe, worry-free environment like everyone else.
Thank you.