Joxer - Another NI girl here, who also went to an all girls grammar. Schooling is the only thing that would make me consider moving back! The rules are there for a reason and acting the maggot just wasn’t an option.
And why do people assume that following rules somehow doesn’t prepare children for life in the real world or removes their ability to be critical thinkers? If anything the opposite is true - many school leavers seem to be incapable of coping with the rules and expected behaviour of the workplace and unable to face consequences of their actions. How would the Highway Code work if we all decided that we couldn’t be arsed to follow it? Would I still get paid if I took to doing no work and messing about on my phone all day? I also can’t see the evidence that overly permissive schooling turns out amazing critical thinking skills anyway.
Expensive private schools don’t necessarily need to impose such rules as you can bet your bottom dollar that parents paying £40k per year for their child’s education won’t let them mess about, and the home culture these students are coming from places a decent weight on education and conforming to being one of the accepted set.
I also don’t think (happy to be corrected if wrong) that any other European country would have any truck with not eating the school food. Don’t like it? Tough. You’re not going out at lunch, so eat it or go hungry. Some countries will still send you home at lunchtime - good luck making that work if you have a job. What have we done to our children if so many of them are so fussy?
The cult of the individual is a big problem in this country, and education is only one facet of it.