To be at the end of my tether - Baby size

[MadamMcCord]

DD is 9 weeks old and weighs 15lb.

She was born 11lb 2oz. Yes it’s big, I know it’s big but I am sick to death of people telling me how big she is. It’s constant, however I normally smile along until the question ‘did you have a natural birth’ is asked.

Why is that anybody’s business? Literal strangers have asked me if I had a ‘natural birth’ and I just find it so rude.

DH thinks I may be sensitive because I tried to have a natural birth but ended up with an emergency c-section because she was too big.

I however, don’t really think it’s appropriate for a stranger to want to know how I delivered my child. Because really, they are wondering the state I’ve been left in birthing an 11lb baby!

AIBU?

YANBU. Dd2 is 2.5, off the scale for her height and on the 92nd centile for weight. She is tall for her age but she is perfectly in proportion. It grates on my every time someone comments on what a 'big girl' she is or questions her clothing size asdum8ng shes in bigger clothes. The inference is that she is fat and it pisses me off. My grandma continually comments on how 'well covered' she is and 'reassures me' that its better to have 'meat on your bones' than to be too thin. I just want people to stfu before they give my baby a complex. There are lots more interesting things you can say about a child than comment on their size. Ive attached a pic because it proves that people are fucking idiots who talk shit.

To be honest, I was always delighted to tell the horror story of birth over and over, but maybe I needed to get it out of my system. People are just delighting in your lovely baby and admiring your strength. They are not imagining your nether regions. However, you be as sensitive as you like and don't answer the question if you don't want to. It's your body. Your rules.

Ignore them - my 6 week prem DC weight in at 7lb 12ozs!!

thank the lord he was yanked out the sunroof early - I swear he would have walked out otherwise!

He is now 11 yrs old 1m 74cms but in Holland this is normal. Dad is 6ft 6 and I am 6ft 2.

Normal in my family!

Thanks all - I think it might be mostly hormones but I would never admit that to DH.

Sorry to hear it happens to everyone at each end of the scale. I might use the ‘I don’t want to answer that’ moving forward!

You just can't win! Small at birth and you get comments about whether they're getting enough milk, larger at birth and people will still find things to comment on. It's seems it's open season for every Tom, dick and harry

People just like to talk about this stuff! I bet 6 months down the line when it’s all a bit less fresh, you’ll meet someone else who’s had a 11 pounder and you’ll love to share your story and hear theirs in return.

Also, the point about bigger babies = more milk = longer sleep seems to be true as she’s sleeping through already!

I do think I take offence because it was such a traumatic time at the birth and I might not have come to terms with it yet.

Ds2 was 10lb and put on loads of weight when i was breastfeeding too, and i also got looked up and down a lot and his size was commented,on ESPECIALLY regarding me birthing naturally. I found it really embarrassing.
Hes a completely normal sized child now.

I do have a soft spot for fat babies though

My DS was 11lbs and I had a natural birth. He was a long baby and is a 6ft 3in grown up now. Most people are a mixture of horrified, fascinated and impressed by how big he was. No one has actually asked me outright if my fanjo made a full recovery though

“Are you asking me about my vagina?”

Act vague and distracted, or straightforward, or , whatever works for you

It will stop soon, I promise.

DS was born 10lb 5 ozs, looked like a three month old .

Babies the same age soon caught up and by school, most had overtaken him. He is quite small for his age now, at nearly 13.

Congratulations.

Hi, over 12lb here! People don't seem to have boundaries when discussing babies, I got told by a friend who had a 9lb baby that I'd taken her "biggest baby" title away. Ah well. My ds is a lanky toddler now, still big for his age, but healthy and happy. It's a weird obsession people have. I'm pretty proud of myself and him, and now just nod and smile!

People are just rude. My DS was fairly small but not tiny (6lb 8oz at birth). I got sick of people commenting on how small he was.