To ask how I can get over him?

[ToMyRoom]

It’s been 2 months since we split up and I’m sat here crying again because I saw him at work today.

I don’t know how to stop myself feeling like this, I feel like I should be starting to get over things by now.

He looks at me like I’m nothing so I know there’s no chance of working things out with him. How do I get over him when I still have to see him?

The best way to get over someone is by getting under someone else

I’m so sorry- this is very tough ...
the only thing is time to be honest and try to keep busy and distract yourself .
It’s horrible now but I promise I’m time it will get easier ..
Be kind to yourself and spend lots of time with good friends who make you laugh ...,
Take care xx

As pp said, keep busy - arrange to see friends, keep fit, start a decorating project.

So sorry you are in this situation. I’ve been there a few times and it feels unbearable at the time. Looking back I wasted so much time crying over idiots who weren’t all that. I’ve found it helps to make a list of all the things you dislike about the person and everything you disliked about your relationship with them.
And do things to make yourself feel good and improve your relationship with yourself!

1. Concentrate on things about him that you didn't like (there must be something)

1. Time.

Think of all the things you didn't like about him

Including the fact that he obviously has no taste

and including the fact he is actually unpleasant if he looks at you like you are nothing

then congratulate yourself that you are not stuck with him but free to find someone much nicer

@ToMyRoom time I'm afraid. One day you'll see him & feel nothing. If possible, try not to be around when you know he will be.

How long where you together? 2 months to get over someone seems pretty soon. I was with my ex for 4 years. I think it took at least 6months to feel better, . Then another 6 before I noticed other men. I started seeing someone new 2 years after we broke up and we have been married 10 years. When I met my dh I used to have nightmares that I was back with my ex and couldn’t remember my dh is dream just vague feeling that I should’ve be with my ex and I was forced to. It made me feel sick.

Believe me when my ex left me I was beyond devastated and couldn’t imagine ever being able to love again. I thought we would grow old together. I also had to see him. People said it would get easier but it’s hard to imagine that when you feel how you do. I promise you will though. I know it’s a cliche but spend some time on you, distract yourself with activities, friends. See it as an opportunity to reboot.

Edit: Shouldn’t be with my ex.

It takes time. Easier if there is someone else that catches your eye. It took me a year to get over my ex, when I met my dh. Ultimately it was for the better. I’m married w kids and my ex is still a commitment phobe and single.

Thanks everyone.

We weren’t together that long, about 6 months so I feel like after 2 months I should at least be starting to get over it?

He takes over from me so I can’t avoid seeing him unfortunately. I tried looking at a dating app to see if that would help but I’m honestly not interested in anyone. All I think when swiping through is that I want to be with him, no-one else. But I know that will never happen so I’m not sure what else I can do.

Better to have loved and lost than not have loved at all.

Some you might not get over for a long time. And that’s fine.Accept that misery is a human emotion and that means you aren’t some soulless psycho. Wallow,be miserable, pick it all apart.

The fact that you realise these feelings horrible and not what you want means at some point life will move on for you. It’s grim but just ride it out.

Just remember that it will get easier.
In a few months from now you'll feel so much better.
When the sadness hits just tell yourself that it's ok, it will pass and it won't always feel like this.
Keep as busy and distracted as you can. Make lots of plans, get out and about, do something really nice for yourself.