To not want my mum to come to the 21 week scan?

[chocchipmuffin]

Am 14w preg and my dad has told me that my mum wants to come to the 21w scan. Dsd came to the last one (she found it difficult to accept the pregnancy and we asked her so she could feel part of it, if she wanted to come).

I just feel that the scan is a private thing for me and dh. We don't have any relatives nearby and so it really is just us and ds (and the new baby when s/he arrives). My parents gave me a great many speeches about how good being a grandparent as they get all the nice/easy bits even when I was in the newborn/car crash phase and being told how ill I looked. I think my mum may have changed one nappy in 3 years.

All of this is fine, but I do feel that given that this baby is very much mine and dh's, I don't want anyone else at the scan this time (dsd is away travelling atm, so not in the frame this time).

I know I sound resentful (!!), but, AIBU? TIA

Tell her that the hospital only allows mum plus one other adult in the room during the scan (thats true at my hosp). Sometimes though when I've been there I've seen other adults coming in for a peek AFTER, when the scanner and you know that all is ok. I have heard scanners say 'its a medical procedure, not an opportunity to wave at your baby' to families who all turn up!
Ring up and ask whether, if she comes to mind dsd, would she and dsd be able to have a peek once the serious part is over.
If this they say yes, then tell her that this is what you have arranged Specially for her...
No way would I have had anyone else in the room except dp at any scans - 1st time I was pg they couldn't find a heartbeat at 12 week scan, it was bad enough for just me and dp, imagine if someone else had been there.

yanbu.

I actually went one further and no-one but dh was allowed to see the photos either. As I cannot see, I didn't want anyone else to see my baby before I did. I lied and said we didn't get a picture and no-one questioned it.