To get a cleaner without telling my husband

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I want one.
I go back to work after maternity soon and I just would love someone to come in and do the things I don't want to. Like the skirting boards, the bathroom, Hoover- stuff like that

Husband thinks it's a waste of money. But I couldn't think of anything better to spend it on if it means I don't have to clean after work with 2 kids running around.

Full disclosure- husband does his fair share of cleaning too- it just doesn't bother him as much as me.

So aibu to get one and just not tell him?

Your DH doesn't mind doing the cleaning, Your DH doesn't want a cleaner. so let him do all the cleaning. problem solved.

We take turns cleaning. I always wonder about getting a cleaner to come in when it's my turn, whilst were both at work and then pretending I just did it before I went to work (I start later than him)

Every time I'm stuck cleaning the bathroom it's what I'm fantasizing about.

YANBU OP. Do it. Its only a white lie. And he will love it too. What u dont know doesn't hurt u.

Only slight down point is if he finds out he might not understand u did it in his best interests and worry what else u lie about. Maybe hook him with coming home to an immaculate house for 2 weeks then let the cat out the bag and tell him in an oh did I mention I had a tiny bit of help with the cleaning I did today.
I have a cleaner once a week and it's worth every penny. Do it.

You’ve got much bigger problems going on here.
Seriously, you’ve got to have a conversation about this.
You want a cleaner?
Get a fucking cleaner!

I had to set it all up myself and argue the toss. I won in the end because it’s about having quality time. We got someone on recommendation and he relented. Lifesaver of my sanity.