Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

How much is too much? Helping out ex

29 replies

BaggyPantsDance · 21/08/2019 19:03

Hs ex has a habit of ringing him and asking favours for lots of things. If her boiler breaks, she rings him. If she gets new furniture she asks him to help put it together, if something goes on her car, just generally whenever she needs a favour.

I'm really not someone who wants to get in the way or cause 'issues' but how much of this is too much?

For full disclosure they do have one child together but I wouldn't say they get on very well. They co parent fine but they aren't particularly complimentary about each other and so it's not as though they are friends outside of their child.

She has a brother who lives close by and is apparently seeing someone so I don't really understand the constant need for H to be the one to fix her problems.

It's always said with a lot of entitlement as well like 'you have to do x because otherwise I can't do y' or 'when can you do X because I'm waiting to do y' etc...

He usually makes excuses but then ends up relenting and doing it to get her of his case.

Maybe I'm just being silly but AIBU to think that they aren't together anymore and she needs to get someone else to deal with day to day things like this?

OP posts:
MyCatHatesEverybody · 22/08/2019 11:37

As is usual in these cases, you have a DH problem.

YANBU.

Dontsweatthelittlestuff · 22/08/2019 11:51

I would say if the flat pack furniture is for his child’s room then he should be helping out it together but if it is a waldrobe for her room then no if she needs help then she should ask her family.

MyCatHatesEverybody · 22/08/2019 14:27

Why should he help her put it together? They have 50/50 access, they are each responsible for their own households. She has a brother who can help if she really needs it.

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 22/08/2019 14:38

her brother was actually there and didn't help! Just stood talking

Well it's up to your DH to point this out then. As long as he keeps jumping every time she snaps her fingers, she has no reason to stop.

He needs to say 'Sorry, no.'

New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread