Hi all,
I know this guy from high school. He asked me out back then (we were 17 and 18), I declined.
We reconnected online years later. I eventually got out of a long term relationship so he told me he was still interested in me and I said ok, let’s see how it goes. Problem is, after a month or two of flirting online and over the phone (we live in different countries), I found out I was pregnant with my ex. I told him right away.
I told him I needed to focus on my pregnancy and baby and sort everything out with my ex, on my own.
We didn’t speak for 3 years, then he reached out, just to say hi.
Since then, I’ve been contacting him now and then just to chat. Every time I get the same thing. He politely answers my questions but doesn’t «engage» IYKWIM.
I would say: «Hi, how you doing ?» and he would answer «Hi, I’m doing fine»
No «how about you», nothing.
I have to resume the conversation every time. Asking him about his day, job, sons etc.
It seems like he’s not interested or available but at the same time, when I told him I will be in his country in a few weeks, he said “great, I’ll take you there, we will do this and that”
So now I’m confused. I really want to ask him if he’s single, if he’s interested in starting something with me but I don’t want to sound desperate or too forthcoming for a woman.
We’re both single parents in our early 40s now.
What do you think ?