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Parcel debate

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FirstTimeMummyDS88 · 21/08/2019 15:56

So yesterday at around 10am I was asked to take in a parcel for a house over the road as they weren't in, I said no problem and they put a card through saying the parcel was at my house. Around 6 yesterday evening I knocked over with the parcel and there was no answer although the car was there and living room windows open, their little girl (she's around 6) came to the door and spoke to me through the letterbox saying that she can't open the door because it's locked and her mum was in the bath. Of course that's absolutely fine and I thanked the little girl and told her to just tell her mum to knock for parcel when she's ready.

Fast forward to this morning and parcel still here, again this isn't a problem for me. I got myself and baby (14 months) ready and left around 7.15, DS at childminder at 7.30 for me to get to work for 8am, DP leaves around 7.40. I didn't knock with parcel as it's the school holidays and I didn't want to risk waking anyone. So I finish work at 2pm and go to pick up DS, we went straight to the shops and then popped into my mums for a coffee. I get in at half 3 to a not through my door with PARCEL!! In dark capital letters and underlined several times. I start getting shopping out of car and pop it in hallway and as I go back to car on driveway to get DS from his car seat the man from over the road marches over to me shouting "you've got to be fucking joking you"

I asked him not to swear at me, especially in front of my child and I'm also 13 weeks pregnant so felt quite intimidated and he just carried on screaming about how he's been knocking all morning for his parcel, where the fuck have I been all day and if I took his parcel in it's my responsibility to get it to him ASAP

Now I don't remember my mum covering the rules of taking in a neighbours parcel with me when I was a kid but am I right to think this bloke is BU?

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Troels · 21/08/2019 15:58

He's a dick. If it was so important they should have come round for it last night, cheeky begger.
Note taken, don't accept parecels for them again.

inwood · 21/08/2019 15:59

Don't accept any more parcels for them. Ever.

LordEmsworth · 21/08/2019 15:59

Well you know to say no next time! He's a twat, no more favours for him...

whattodowith · 21/08/2019 16:01

Wow, what an arsehole. Don’t accept parcels for them again and just try to avoid them at all costs. You tried to deliver the parcel, they didn’t answer. You did all you could really.

CassianAndor · 21/08/2019 16:01

Come on, do you really have to ask? Of course YANBU and he's a prick.

PancakeAndKeith · 21/08/2019 16:02

Gosh what a lot of information.

He was a twat. As far as I know the ‘rules’ are that if your parcel is with a neighbour then they are doing you a favour and you pick it up when it’s convenient to them.

MarySibleysFamiliar · 21/08/2019 16:03

Never mind not taking parcels in, I'd be taking them and then immediately returning to sender!

Expressedways · 21/08/2019 16:04

Personally I would have left it outside the front door when you spoke to the 6YO through the letterbox since you were already there but parcel etiquette dictates that if it’s your parcel then it’s your responsibility to go to collect it from the neighbour who has been kind enough to take it for you. He sounds completely unhinged. I’d never take a parcel for them again.

Sicario · 21/08/2019 16:04

I have a sign by the front door that says "no parcels for other houses, thanks". I had a CF neighbour who was cut from exactly the same piece of cloth.

Chitarra · 21/08/2019 16:05

He's completely out of order OP. Don't take any parcels for him in future.

Milly345 · 21/08/2019 16:06

I would of said no I’m not giving it to you. And sent it back

Celebelly · 21/08/2019 16:07

Bloody hell that's awful! What a scum bag

FirstTimeMummyDS88 · 21/08/2019 16:07

I've took parcels for them in before but I've always just seen the wife and she's always been lovely.

I did just think it's their responsibility to come and get it when they can, if it was that important surely the wife would have come over for it after I'd spoken to the little girl and she knew I was in

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madeofstarlight · 21/08/2019 16:10

God, how rude! If someone does you the favour of taking in your parcel you go and collect it when they're at home. I bet if you'd have left it on the doorstep after talking the daughter he'd have given you grief about that as well. Don't take in anymore for them!

MissConductUS · 21/08/2019 16:10

The parcel doubtless contained some cheap tat or gadget a lifesaving medicine.

Just kidding. I would have been tempted to send it back at that point too, and obviously never accept anything for that address in the future.

FizzBuzzBangWoof · 21/08/2019 16:14

What an entitled wanker

I would refuse to take in any future parcels for them

I hope you told him that your life doesn't revolve around his parcels!!

Beautiful3 · 21/08/2019 16:24

Awful behaviour. Never take in parcels for them ever again.

Elision · 21/08/2019 16:27

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Ravenblack · 21/08/2019 16:31

@FirstTimeMummyDS88

Aaaaaand THIS is why I never ever EVER take parcels in for ANYone. No, not ever.. NEVER.

Don't care what people think about it either. It's my choice, and I won't take them in. And no I DON'T want people to take them in for me either. (Although I rarely have packages come, as I get them delivered to a lockup in Argos or Morrisons, so I can pick them up at my leisure.)

Other people need to do this too, and not expect neighbours to take them in and then bring them round, and then kick off when they are delayed in bringing it!

Had waaaay too much shit in the past, similar to the OP and a lot worse! Do NOT take anyone's parcels in now.

Alcohollightweight · 21/08/2019 16:34

He’s a first class idiot.
We frequently take in parcels for neighbours and I wouldn’t think it’s my responsibility to get it to them ASAP, nor would my neighbours expect me to.If they haven’t come round for it on the day it was delivered then I would ring their bell the next day and maybe put a polite note through the door saying I had tried to get it to them.
Next time just refuse to take it.
I refused to take in a parcel earlier today because(a) it was for someone across the other side of the road and several doors down that I didn’t know and(b) because it was huge and would have taken up half of my hall.

AmIThough · 21/08/2019 16:35

The guy is clearly unhinged. Lesson learnt.

Aderyn19 · 21/08/2019 16:37

What a dick. I'd have drop kicked his parcel across the road!

FirstTimeMummyDS88 · 21/08/2019 16:40

@Elision

And here was me hoping my argument with my neighbour was going to help me be the next JK Rowling

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MamaBee3 · 21/08/2019 16:40

Wow, what an ungrateful dick! I definitely wouldn’t be taking anymore parcels in for them. If it was that important the mum should have collected it before she got in the bath.

siriusblackthemischieviouscat · 21/08/2019 16:42

That is totally out of order of course if it.

It is frustrating to have a parcel you can't get though. We have neighbours who somehow hear the door for the postman every time but never hear me at the door. Sometimes it's taken me days to get my parcel from them with me going at different times of the day. One evening I went 6 times, I could see they were in (upper windows open, tv on etc) but couldn't hear the food apparently. We ended up putting a (polite) note through the door letting them know we have tried a few times to collect and could they pop it round when they are free. 15 mins later they brought it. It is annoying but I appreciate they are doing me a favour as we are rarely in to Coll's t parcels.

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