My mother has never been very maternal. As children I remember spending the majority of summer holidays at my grandmas whilst she swanned of holidays abroad with which ever partner she was with at the time. No real great fun memories of my mum.
I have been going through a bit of a hard time lately and did lean on my mum a bit for support but when I call her she would say she needed to go because she needed to ring a take away or was busy and give me a shit excuse.
She has just got into a new relationship and it seems this new person is now taking up all of her time and energy. I called up to see her and I was trying to have a joke with her and I can tell by her face she just wanted me to leave.
I’m due to have a baby soon which will not be her first gc and she doesn’t really seem interested, doesn’t ring me to see how I am how the baby is doing, pokes fun at the name I’ve chosen, makes comments regarding my partner.
But as soon as she hears something I’m doing (I.e moving house) that I haven’t specifically told her about she will write comments on social media saying oh I didn’t know you were doing xyz. Well you won’t because you never ring me or hold a conversation.
I’m closer to my partners mum than I am her and I just wish she was more interested in me instead of just pushing me to the side. Am I being unreasonable? I’m not hounding her on the phone or calling in every few days I will ring her to see how she is and she will brush me off and promise a call back which never happens.
Fed up of it to be honest. Feel like not contacting her until she decides to contact me, and if she does it won’t be to see how I am or will be to ask for a favour. My sisters also feel like this too.
Is this just part of being an adult having contact like this with parents? I look at my friends relationships with their mum and they go out for days out together or invite one another round for tea and a catch up. I think my mums been to my house twice since I lived here and I’ve been here 2 years.