Pregnancy nightmare

[Swaylee14]

So I fell pregnant earlier this year with someone I thought I knew, turns out hes a complete monster.

Anyway, here goes we were having his son stay over on various weekends to then his ex partner saying the child wasnt allowed around me as she had safeguarding issues an had social services on her case, now baring in mind I have 2 children of my own an never had dealings with a social worker or social services.

So now I'm currently 31weeks pregnant I've had no emotional or financial help (apart from £150) from the childs father as our relationship broke down, an ever since all hes been doing is wasting his money on drink an drugs an I no longer see him, anyway last week I have a letter come threw from social services, I do my best by my children always put them first an always will.

So I couldn't understand why I'd recieved this letter other than the fact my ex partners family hate the sight of me, so I thought il bite the bullet here an ask if they know anything about it, 2days later the abuse starts from ex partners step mother, basically telling me to cut all ties with babys dad an have no more contact ok fair enough that's fine with me, so I've asked for the whole family to delete my number out there phones an leave me an unborn child alone an I blocked her, so then she texts me abuse so i reply telling her to piss off keep interfering shes not babys dads mother an to leave us alone an then blocked her again on text message, I've checked my blocked messages an shes calling me a stupid c@#t an I'm deranged an no wonder her precious step son left me, am I being petty by not allowing her to see my child once they are born as I dont want her around when clearly shes admitted now what she thinks of me an she is a genuinely toxic person

She might not want to see the child anyway.

When is the sw coming round?

Why would you allow anyone like that to see your child. Your ex DP nor any of his family should be allowed to spend time with your child imo. If he's spending all
his money on drink and drugs then it's not like he's going to take you to court for access either is it? Sounds like you're well rid. Good luck with SS.

Just stop reading your blocked messages and you won't know what she's saying.

I don’t think she wants to see the baby. Block them all and don’t engage with them.

You would be unreasonable to let this woman see your child. Change your phone number and cut the whole family out if you can; do they know where you live? Keep the abusive texts in case you need evidence should they try and take you to court for access.

Did you find out why social services have been called and what exactly you're supposed to have done. I would have thought once they look around your house and interview you they'll see there was nothing to be concerned about.

He wont take me to court for access but threatening it but I know he wont follow threw as needs money for drugs an drink, social worker has said its malicious an has no concerns in regards to me, I'm just waiting now till due date an when babys here for the fun to start again

He might not get in touch? My ex didn’t and I didn’t tell him.

Your poor children.

I'm finding this really hard to follow.

I'm a bit slow in the morning. Could you explain who's who again?

I dont think he will be in touch either tbh an I'm hoping he stays clear, luckily he will only be deadbeat father to the youngest my other twos father is fantastic an helps out a lot...I feel sorry for my exs family as this woman seems to think she has control over the whole family an there lioe her minions an follow suit

Sorry guys changed my username since making the post

She sounds like just wants to give you grief rather than wanting any access. Try not to read any blocked messages moving forward (didn't know you could do this tbf) and put all your energy into your pregnancy and your children. It all sounds toxic, not good for yours, your children or unborn baby's health. All the best.

Also I agree with Beanbag re keeping the abusive messages but dunno if you can do it without reading them! Perhaps quick screenshot, email them to yourself then delete off your phone.

She's just levelling abuse your way because she's awful. Have nothing more to do with them. You've done well to be shot of him before the baby's born.

Nasty bullies, block them. Keep them all away from your children.

She controlled our relationship when we was together always had an opinion always putting her nose in, I changed my number in the end an wouldnt speak to her till my ex went on that much I gave in an spoke again, but I'm glad social services are not on my case for the likes of them, its really hard to not look at blocked messages (have samsung), an when baby arrives I'm going back to my moms for a few weeks as I will be having a csection an wont be able to manage at home with myself an 3 children, an yes they are bullies but I have finally stood up to her an the rest of the family, has anyone got any advice on birth certificate an do I have to name him on there I've never been threw this before

You don't have to put him on the certificate as you're not married. Block all contact from the sorry lot of them

I didn’t name my ex on DD’s birth certificate. He is still legally obligated to pay for her.

Well all completely blocked an staying that way, also keeping him off birth certificate