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I know i am most likely bu - TV noise help

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Swellerellamoo · 20/08/2019 22:31

I have a lovely bf. We have been together about a year and previous to that I was single about 3 years. It's really nice that he comes over (alot) and we enjoy time together. But apart from with the kids I don't watch TV, ever. I don't find it relaxing or interesting, or I find box sets too much and can't stop watching , so again not relaxing. Bf quite rightly likes to relax with the TV on. All . The. Time.

He is currently sitting downstairs loving a chef programme which I am really happy he is relaxing, fine I don't want to watch it so I'm upstairs on my phone / reading my book. The literal sound of the TV which is completely audible from my bedroom I have realised I can't stand. Nor can I stand it on first thing in the morning and I absolutely can't stand football focus or match of the day because I find the sound so disruptive and messes with my peace of mind. He is totally reasonable and a complete sweetheart and I've just shut both doors and he's turned it down a bit and no dramas.

But what is wrong with me ?? Why can't I either just enjoy tv or not mind the background noise it creates?

I know it's basically a non issue but as the relationship progresses and we spend more time together I just don't think I can bear it. Any thoughts welcomed on how to approach this without being controlling or selfish, but at the same time preserving my sanity! Of course ear phones are an option but it seems a bit mean to make him wear them when watching telly I'm not interested in, which is essentially all TV.

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CatSmize · 20/08/2019 22:58

DH and I watch different things a lot of the time (different nationalities/languages) and we both wear bluetooth earphones while watching on our tablets. Also, when he wants to watch some loud film while I'm in the bedroom, he'll watch with his earphones connected.

Even though I like a bit of telly, I'm very sensitive to noise so this works really well for us.

FWIW, I hardly even notice I'm wearing earphones round the house as there are cordless and I'm so used to it. And it's not like they block outside noise so I can still hear DH when he talks to me. Maybe you could get him some bluetooth ones as a present?

CatSmize · 20/08/2019 22:59

Oh and I totally get the football thing! Luckily my DH isn't a fan because just hearing it completely drives me to distraction!

CatSmize · 20/08/2019 23:02

Also, when he wants to watch some loud film while I'm in the bedroom, he'll watch with his earphones connected.

*I mean a loud film on TV in the living room while I'm in the bedroom.

theunrivalledjoysofparenting · 20/08/2019 23:02

I don’t like a lot of the stuff dh watches. Peaky Blinders? Too violent. Bloomberg? Horrible American accents. I either go to another room or he waits for me to go out then watches his shit.

Sounds like he wants to watch tv all the tv - first thing? - not just in the eves. I suggest you should talk to hIm and come to a compromise about when the tv should be on.

Also, do you other stuff than watch tv?

And he should get earphones to watch it silently.

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