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To think she’s jealous?

33 replies

Jobjealousy · 20/08/2019 20:18

NC for this.

My current job contract is ending next month. I went for a job interview with a large organisation, didn’t get the role but as I did well they offered me a 12 month maternity cover, doing the same role. They said that whilst they can’t guarantee anything, something else may come up in that time. I’ve accepted as it’s good experience, a great organisation to work for and even if something else doesn’t come up, it’s still a job for 12 months given that my current one is nearly over.

A friend knew I was going for an interview. She messaged me today asking if I’d heard how I got on. This friend has herself been out of work for nearly a year, and has applied for jobs and had a couple of interviews but hasn’t got anything. However she does admit that she hasn’t looked as hard as she could have done.

So, I told friend the outcome and there was no “well done”, “congrats” or similar. Just that she wouldn’t advise maternity cover as it’s someone else’s job and there’s no guarantee of further work.

I was a bit hurt by this. I’m well aware that there’s nothing guaranteed after the 12 months, but it’s still a foot in the door, good experience, and a year’s work. If I had turned this down I could’ve ended up with no job in two months’ time.

I’m 100% sure I’ve made the right decision and family and other friends have been so pleased for me and said what a great move it will be. I feel a bit sad by her reaction though, and the logical part of me is telling myself that she’s possibly jealous. Do you think I’m right?

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Jobjealousy · 20/08/2019 21:39

Thanks everyone. Great to hear positive stories about maternity covers turning into longer term, and managers wanting to keep people on. I’m totally aware that may not happen though and am just going to focus on the here and now, and enjoy my new job!

I can completely understand that it may be due to her not having a job, but equally it’s not hard to say well done even if you feel jealous, upset, whatever. She is only going for permanent jobs and has said many times that she’s “not going to take just anything”, so surely must accept that the combination narrows her choices down.

As someone said, I should focus on all the positives rather than this negative but it’s just put a bit of a dampener on it.

Thanks for all the congratulations! Smile

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TitsInAbsentia · 20/08/2019 21:52

Congratulations! If it's somewhere you could really see yourself working then you should grab the opportunity Grin

Destinesia · 20/08/2019 22:12

Congratulations! I've done several maternity contracts and every time, it has lead to a permanent position.

GiraffeWithSwag · 20/08/2019 22:33

Well done you!
Yep....she’s jealous. Try to ignore, rise above it and if that fails a bit of distance between you.

Jobjealousy · 20/08/2019 23:05

I just replied saying that I’m looking forward to it and it’ll be a great career step and open doors. Part of me wanted to say a sarcastic “thanks for the congratulations” but I managed to stop myself! Wink

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FireBloodAndIce · 22/08/2019 09:12

Never understand how people can be so picky about a short term job when they've been without one so long.

When i was looking i had similar about a fixed term 1 year job, well it was 4 years in the end and she was unemployed for over half that time, barring 2 or 3 temp jobs (fussy with those too). She luckily could live with her mum and dad for free and i think that safety net made her complacent.

Jobjealousy · 22/08/2019 23:52

I personally think a job with any length of contract is better than no job. Whether that contract gets renewed or not, you’ve still had that job, for the experience, possibly new skills, and no gap on your CV. I know everyone is different but I just don’t get it.

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JonSnowsCloak · 22/08/2019 23:59

I left a permanent job for a 15 month maternity cover - still here five years later :) same job just different area. Plenty of time to worry about that!!

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