To feel guilt about parenting

[notastealthboast]

Aibu to feel guilty? My child (an only) honestly seems happiest at home. I don't dread the holidays like some because they can amuse themselves reasonably well. I always feel awful guilt and question myself that once back at school children and parents will be recalling amazing trips abroad and day trips at home which we just haven't done. Screen time is controlled (slightly), child is sociable when need arises, doing well at school, no issues, not overweight. We've a nice home in a nice area and they seem happiest at home pottering. Days out go fine but they aren't craved for. I do feel inadequate as a mum though as I know everyone's busy doing all sorts. Aibu?

If your children are happy at home pottering, you’re clearly a great parent who has raised kids who are good at amusing themselves and are comfortable in their home. But I’m sure you know that really.

My son in particular prefers to potter, but both of my children love staying at home. I know that many of their friends' parents are a bit envious because their children are climbing the walls after a day at home. It's just a different type of personality IMO, some of us do just as well if not better without too much external stimulation, while many people really need it.

Er we hate “days out”. They are over hyped and never go the way you hope. I also hate crowds so we stay local and potter. We do stuff like swimming or walks. My DD loves staying in altho we do have to go eg for a walk cos she needs to be worn out really. There is absolutely no need to feel guilty.

Your home life sounds idyllic to me, your children are obviously very happy. You have absolutely nothing to feel guilty about.

I was a real “home bird” as a child (still am) I hated family days out. Stressed mum packing picnics and spare clothes and getting there and finding parking and it rains or everything being too expensive or it’s freezing and everyone bickering and mum snapping because she spent a fortune to give us a nice day out and really all I wanted to do was just go back home and read or play with my own toys or watch a video.

Don’t fix what’s not broken OP. If your child is happy at home, then they’re happy.

Would swap places with you in a heartbeat!

Out of my 3 dc, one would stay at home and do his own thing every day of the year if he was allowed. He's friendly and happy!