AIBU to expect to get a head bump form from a day care nursery?

[pipiandbelle]

My LG who is 21 months started nursery a few weeks ago (1 day a week).

I have picked my LG up twice now and both times I could hear her crying (not like her). Last time I was told she was crying because she's just bumped her head but I got no head bump form or anything, I had to press (not the key worker but the person who brought her to the front door) how she bumped her head and where. They told me she had bumped the back of her head but later she had a red mark on the front of her head which makes me think they didn't see it happen.

Aghhh- not sure if I'm being over cautious but I would have thought I would have a report on a head bump and more info on the day. I get a daily report but it is basically a cut and paste of what the group have done not how my little girl has been. The head bump and the crying (earlier in the day which is not like her) wasn't mentioned at all in the daily report btw.

Any thoughts on if all of this is normal? Should I expect a form on ANY head bump even if deemed to be minor? How much feedback should I get about how upset or not my LG has been in the day?

Thanks for any advice.

DD is 14 months and started nursery at 9 months and has loads of accident report forms. Most of them have been head bumps over the last two months since she started cruising. I think there was one time when she had a slight bump that they told us about at drop off and didn't do a form iirc but the others all left bruises. Actually thinking about it it seems like they've done a form every time she had an accident that left a mark on her and perhaps don't bother with anything that is very minor in nature and doesn't leave a mark? Not sure. I would just ask what their policy is. I'm not sure you need a form really as long as staff are up front with discussing it with you at pick up or if more seriously thwn call you after the event. I don't see the point in us having a copy of the forms tbh I mean I suppose I get why they provide it but it's not useful for us at all. The staff tell us all the details and if they're not totally sure how she fell or hurt herself or whatever they are up front about that. And I think that's fine because occasionally I turn around and DD has face planted the floor at home and I don't know how or why or which part of her landed first etc. So I don't expect nursery who have two kids for each adult to always see either.

Also ime they tell you when she's been having a bad day e.g. more crying than usual etc but if your DD is only on her second day she will still be settling in so lots of crying is normal. If you want more info I would just ask, don't be afraid to ask questions. I will say though that one day a week will likely take it a lot longer to settle in because of the big gap between sessions. Our nursery says this and I have seen other people on MN say it too, parents and nursery workers.

1 day a week is very very hard for them to settle at childcare. I would say a minimum of 2 and preferably 3. They are too little to remember what they were doing a day ago let alone a week ago.

We got forms for anything that has left a mark. If they have had a bump and cried but no mark they may tell us but not always and we won't have a form.

If they have told you about the head bumps then why would you need a form?

Realistically they won’t always know why or how bumps have happened because even with 1-1 care you can’t see everything all the time.

It's good practice for childcare providers to inform you of any accidents and ask you to sign an accident form to say that you have been informed. Otherwise they are leaving themselves vulnerable to allegations and potentially putting a child at risk if parent not informed properly about a head injury.

At our nursery there would always be a form for any bump, and if it's on the head it's always followed by a phone all to say he's OK, but he's had a wee bump on the head and we'll be watching him closely.

We always get a phonecall if he has bumped his head (3 times in one week once!!). They do first aid, ie ice pack. We sign two forms and they give us one with advice re a head injury.

Oh and lots they don’t see happen but he’s old enough to talk so can tell me... but that’s no huge thing for me. The amount of times as a baby he’d have a bump or bruise etc!

These are big bumps though, ie he has a shiner on his head or an egg at the back of his head. Small scraps and bumps they don’t inform us of