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Lucid Dreaming

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bubblesthree · 19/08/2019 21:19

Has anybody experienced Lucid Dreaming??

Since I was about 4-5 I believe I have been experiencing this. Its basically where you suddenly become aware that you are dreaming.
For years I thought I was experiencing sleep paralysis but then just recently I've discovered lucid dreaming which sounds more accurate.

When I become aware I'm dreaming, I suddenly become really panicked and am trying my best and doing everything in my power to wake up from my sleep, and after what feels like forever I eventually wake up! its really awful. It doesn't happen regularly and I think I may have pin pointed it to when I am stressed out. I woke up really early this morning and then when I went back to sleep it happened so its sort of fresh in my mind again and it really freaks me out.

When I've googled lucid dreaming it seems like people actually practice this for fun? Apparently these people can actually control their dreams - This is not fun in the slightest for me, and I haven't practised anything it just naturally happens, I'm not in control of the dream at all and it is really frightening when it occurs as ive explained.

Has anyone else experienced this ?

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DannyWallace · 19/08/2019 22:25

Also I never found it scary (as I never had nightmares), more interesting.
If I was woken up I could just fall asleep again and carry on where I left off-not sure how common that is?

Dee03 · 19/08/2019 22:26

I had one last night. It was a pretty horrid dream so I made myself wake up even though I knew it was only a dream and not real....

littlemama18 · 19/08/2019 22:28

I have something similar! I think I know I'm dreaming for the majority of my dreams and can usually wake myself up when it's a nightmare however I can rarely control what happens only sometimes! I do get something called a 'false awakening though' where I will wake up as normal, check my phone, have a drink and then ACTUALLY wake up, it's a very strange feeling like a sort of de ja vu (which I also get constantly and this completely freaks me out but that's a whole other thing😂)

PinkyPurply · 19/08/2019 22:29

I've done this since around 5/6, on and off. Always thought it was normal until I spoke to bil who had been trying for a year to control his! Dh thinks we're both nuts.

When I realise I'm dreaming I can control pretty much any aspect, others' actions, places through any door, can fly etc. Although I've seen dead relatives a few times that I didn't think I'd meant to at the time. When I was pregnant I did it throughout and used to hold my baby Blush You should read up on it, I can feel when I'm about to wake or have to blink repeatedly, as hard as I can to wake myself up. Can't ever remember being afraid in a lucid dream so I'm no help!

Gwenhwyfar · 19/08/2019 22:29

Yes, I get the bad side of it. Those mornings where you wake up exhausted because you've already tried getting up a few times, but that was only in your dreams. Someone told me that if you're having one of those mornings and you're not sure if you're awake or not, try switching on the light as electrics don't work in dreams! Not sure if it's true.
Hasn't happened for ages now and I've never had the positive ones e.g. being able to 'decide' to dream about flying or something.

fuckweasel · 19/08/2019 22:33

Someone told me that if you're having one of those mornings and you're not sure if you're awake or not, try switching on the light as electrics don't work in dreams! Not sure if it's true.

That’s what I do! I wonder if someone once told me that and that’s why I do it? I can confirm it works for me.

VirginiaWolfHall · 19/08/2019 22:34

Has happened to me all my life. I finally decided, during an episode a year or so ago, that instead of fighting the dream I would relax into it and allow myself to wake up naturally. I used to be terrified that if I didn't wake up I would die or something, then realised that actually that would be pretty difficult so the best thing would simply be to allow it to pass and not panic. Now when I relax I get lucid dreams and some of these are amazing.

VirginiaWolfHall · 19/08/2019 22:36

Yes I do the light switch thing. I'll think I'm awake and then realise that the light won't work, and then I realise that I'm having another one...

NCB2019 · 19/08/2019 22:40

I never know I'm dreaming until after I wake up so I'm kind of jealous of those of you that know you're dreaming.

The only thing I have been able to do which (I think!) is quiet clever is to wake up from a good dream, realise I was dreaming, make myself fall back asleep within five minutes and go back into the good dream.

Annoyingly I can never remember what the good dreams are about. Then again maybe I dreamed the whole waking up thing? Who knows! 🤷🏻‍♀️

newstart1337 · 19/08/2019 23:00

I dont think you are lucid dreaming.

I have done both lucid dreaming and had sleep paralysis, they are very different.
Lucid dreaming is the ability to control your dreams (you are fully asleep) and it is NOT frightening for an adult. This is why people (like me) practise doing it for fun.

Sleep paralysis is when parts of your brain are asleep and some parts are still awake. So you are almost 'semi conscious', unable to control your body but still processing sensory inputs. Unfortunately because only parts of your brain are awake/functioning you interpret these inputs incorrectly. Which is why is is terrifying. It is not dreaming.

theWarOnPeace · 19/08/2019 23:11

I have these, and do wonder if it’s related to the fact that I have a photographic memory and also a very strong ‘minds eye’ ie a very visual thinker the rest of the time. Is anyone else running a constant visual system the rest of the time?

There was a thread on that here before and loads of people don’t have it! I wonder if lucid dreams and strong visualisation when conscious are interlinked.

I do things in mine like, I can hear in the real world the house start waking up and moving about and so I expect alarm to go off any minute. I’ll then throw myself out of a moving car or jump off a cliff to exit the dream at my own crazy pace. That’s as opposed to waiting for someone to come and interrupt my sleep, or the alarm to go off.

Sometimes I sort of ‘land’ and will shout out. My whole body will have the genuine sensation of being dropped from a huge height when that happens. I’ve fallen off the back of those open backed London buses a few times, and ‘landed’ with a seemingly terrible crash back into bed. I’ve been hooked like a fish, which is bloody awful - painful and gasping for air. Even now if I see any kind of hook, I get a horrible sensation like it’s going to hook through my lip!

I’ve been burned as a witch, that was horrific. But I’ve also been swimming at great speed with a pod of dolphins, and rolled down sand dunes. I’ve never been on a sand dune in real life, but watch lots of travel and nature docs, read lots of books etc so some of these things are kind of fantasy sensations - but some are my biggest fears. Being burnt, or suffocated, brutalised, those are the nightmare sides to it.

Sometimes I’m better at getting out of them than others. I remember an evening reading loads about Doreen Lawrence, someone I’ve always very much admired. I fell asleep and dreamed my children were stabbed to death and I had to fight for justice against corrupt police. The dreaded hell of that nightmare was unshakeable. Every time I woke myself up, I’d calm down and go back to sleep and it would return. The whole of the next day I felt sickened, like I was bereaved and beleaguered in real life. The only good to come of that was I have even more admiration and sympathy for DL now, thanks to vividly spending a night living in her shoes. What she has been through makes me shudder.

Oh another one, I got bitten by a great white shark, tried to punch it on the nose because I saw that on some documentary or other. Unfortunately the water completely slowed my (probably feeble anyway) punch and it didn’t work at all so I just got shredded to death.

I’ve had some brilliant ones and some terrible ones. About 80% of the time I start coming round and interacting with my conscious self. I can always remember them if I’ve got to the conscious stage. If not, then they’re very vivid fragments, like the shark one or the fish hook one. I can’t really remember anything either side.

I’ve just remembered another one. We got a deal to go to v fancy restaurant for a fixed menu, and I was raving about the dessert, saying things like I could eat it forever etc etc. That night I dreamt that it was always there being constantly replenished and I never ever got bored of it, the amazing taste sensation was vivid and delicious and wonderful throughout the whole dream until I woke up. That was a lovely one. Like something from Charlie and the chocolate factory. Pure joy!

saaagp · 19/08/2019 23:14

I'm often aware I'm dreaming (I'm too observant for my own good) but I've never been able to control anything.

TrainspottingWelsh · 19/08/2019 23:16

I’ve always had them that I can remember, definitely could as a toddler because I remember whenever they were scary I brought in a dog who died before I was 4 to save me just as he’d protect me in the day.

Sometimes it’s more like watching tv and my influence is similar to flicking through the channels partway through a film and then watching something else that catches my interest, or deciding to bring in the characters from one show to the set of another. Other times I’m more like the script writer and director in one.

It’s only bad dreams where I bother to wake myself up, and only then when they are horrible enough that I need to prove they aren’t true.

The light switch thing doesn’t work for me, my dreams are generally detailed enough that everything works. Although I do sleepwalk sometimes too, and carry out actions in line with my dream so probably explains why electrics work for me

Ispywithmycynicaleye · 20/08/2019 00:49

I can control my dreams. Often if I dont like how a dream is going I change it. Sometimes it takes several attempts but I am aware I'm dreaming.

Rubyupbeat · 20/08/2019 03:56

I have experienced this for as long as I can remember, trying to wake myself up, or changing the dream, which neither always works.
I also get sleep paralysis, which is a different thing altogether and is terrifying.

Purplejay · 20/08/2019 04:21

If I am dreaming and try to read something I find I can’t focus and then it leads me to realise I am dreaming. I usually wake quite soon after.

theWarOnPeace · 20/08/2019 11:29

Purple oh yes the annoying reading! I also get this thing where I keep tripping over my words and mispronouncing things, then I realise it’s one of those dreams and the awareness comes.

berlinbabylon · 20/08/2019 16:59

If I was woken up I could just fall asleep again and carry on where I left off-not sure how common that is I've had that too.

BobbinThreadbare123 · 20/08/2019 17:07

I can do this. Been able to since I was a child. I have noticed that I do it less as I've got older, probably because I sleep less so have less dream time. I like the dreams; they're not scary!

IndigoSkye · 21/08/2019 06:46

I have a question for those who have lucid dreams. I read this yesterday, then last night thought I became aware I was dreaming and made things happen (this has happened before but not often), but how do I know that I was consciously making this happen or if this was what I would have dreamt anyway? Did I just dream I was in control when really it was just part of my dream?

TrainspottingWelsh · 21/08/2019 14:06

indigo Hard to say. On the one hand dreams of any nature generally feature links to reality, so eg me bringing a dog in as protection from a nightmare monster could just be me dreaming that I have influence. Other times it can be something where I haven’t got a reality to draw experience from, and I’m aware I’m changing aspects of the dream to change the outcome. Eg pausing my dream whilst I come up with a solution, and having that solution in place when I turned the corner in my dream.

Occasionally the awareness/influence is so strong that it’s more like picking an activity or film. Sometimes when I’ve tried to do something I lack real life experience of, the dream can be less vivid, and I’m aware of changing the story/scene to make it more vivid.

So eg in a dream about flying a plane, the more influence I have the less detailed/ real it is, because I don’t have any real life experience. Whereas in a dream about riding, the more influence I have the more detailed and real it becomes.

IndigoSkye · 21/08/2019 17:49

Thanks trainspotting, it's fascinating. I will definitely be paying more attention to my dreams and am going to look up more about lucid dreams after reading this thread

Leaspr · 21/08/2019 22:27

I do but thankfully not often. However the last one was only a few weeks ago. It has a sinister feeling to it. Like there’s an evil spirit there too or something!
I usually go through a stage of realising that I’m dreaming, then waking up, only to then realise that me waking up was a dream too! So then I spend what feels like forever trying to move my paralysed body. It’s absolutely exhausting. Physically and mentally trying to wake yourself up from it. When I eventually wake up, I’m more tired than before I went to sleep!

Leaspr · 21/08/2019 22:30

It sounds like I have sleep paralysis then now I’ve read the other comments! I always assumed it was that but wasn’t too sure if it could be lucid dreaming

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