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To be bemused and not angry?

12 replies

Abstractart · 19/08/2019 19:59

I have been unceremoniously binned off by a friend, a man. I am female. I have seen the light so to speak, and it appears that I was used by this emotional vampire to basically fulfil his emotional and feed his sensitive ego while he was single . I thought our friendship was real and had longevity . I accept that I was an idiot. I know I allowed it and went over and above the call of friendship to support him. Hindsight being 50/50 , I can see that it was boredom and ego boosting on his part . I always felt good for helping him.
Moving on, he has a new girlfriend and he’s said goodbye and thanks to me . No more incessant texting and company seeking .no more advice being sought for problems so in reality, this is not a bad thing. He could be quite draining by at times . Now however, since he finished the friendship, he has begun incessant texting to our group chat , something he rarely used until now . It’s all mundane, banter type messages but he is sending messages into our friendship group up to five times per day .so the personal
Messaging has decreased substantially but the group chat has increased.He will start to message me personally if I do not reply to his group messages. Nobody really replies to him as it’s a very casual friendship group. I’m not angry with him but I was disappointed but now I wonder what his game is .Bemused is the only word I can think of to describe my feeling on this.Thanks for reading. A

OP posts:
QOD · 19/08/2019 20:00

Have you posted this before ?

user1473878824 · 19/08/2019 20:02

This isn’t the colleague is it because bloody hell get over it.

Abstractart · 19/08/2019 20:03

Hello. This isn’t a colleague. This is a friend from a sports/activity group. Why do you think it’s a colleague?

OP posts:
QOD · 19/08/2019 20:06

It is the same OP ? You recognise it too user

SoyDora · 19/08/2019 20:08

Have you posted this before? I’m not then I am actually found insane.

SoyDora · 19/08/2019 20:08

*going insane

Rumours0fAHurricane · 19/08/2019 20:08

All sounds familiar. Read back through your previous threads and the advice will be the same

Rumours0fAHurricane · 19/08/2019 20:10

You're clearly unhealthily obsessed with this man. Just let him be. Stop trying to psychoanalyse him

Travis1 · 19/08/2019 20:14

Just block him 🤷🏻‍♀️

fandabbyfannyflutters · 19/08/2019 20:15

Yep very familiar

Abstractart · 19/08/2019 20:15

I definitaly haven’t put a post in about this issue before. I’m sure that I am not
the first friend to be dumped when a mate’s met anew partner.Think I’ll toddle off to another forum.Thanks

OP posts:
Templetonstunafish · 19/08/2019 20:16

I'm starting to think there are only about three posters on mumsnet. Dumped by a male friend. My child is popular. My husband is cheating on me with a woman named steve.

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