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TheMessyCleaner · 19/08/2019 17:55

So on our local FB parenting groups there is a man from China asking if anyone has a room to rent out as his daughter has a place at a local preparatory school and he is moving over from China to look after her. The mum will stay in China working for Microsoft. On one of the posts the man says that he's unable to work here but can help out with childcare, housework and driving.
Lots of people have suggested air bnb and right move but because he doesn't want to pay anything (or not market value anyway) he's not having much luck.
I'm trying so hard to think positively about it but even laid back, hippie types like myself would struggle with putting a man and his daughter up for free for the whole of her primary school years! I suppose his Visa situation could change?
I think the part I struggle with is that he can pay for private school yet not to rent a flat in a not very affluent area. It's not the same as a refugee family who need stability due to coming from a war torn country. He chose to apply for a place in a British private school! Apparently the school doesn't help with accommodation.
Is it wrong that I think he'd have more luck if he was a woman?

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Bertieandernie · 19/08/2019 18:58

NO help from me.

CleverLoginName · 19/08/2019 18:59

Why does he need to come too? Plenty of my peers had parents that lived in far flung places at boarding school

CleverLoginName · 19/08/2019 19:00

Maybe pick a boarding school that does offer accommodation.

WhereYouLeftIt · 19/08/2019 19:02

"Lots of people have suggested air bnb and right move but because he doesn't want to pay anything (or not market value anyway) he's not having much luck."
Nope. Nopity nope nope nope, I would not "help" (i.e. subsidise) this man.

TheMessyCleaner · 19/08/2019 19:02

It's £1,978 per term, pretty cheap for private isn't it?

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MatildaTheCat · 19/08/2019 19:03

I can’t think of a single reason to entertain this idea for a split second.

roses2 · 19/08/2019 19:17

This exact post came up last month

TheMessyCleaner · 19/08/2019 19:23

@roses2 really?

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DarklyDreamingDexter · 19/08/2019 19:26

He sounds like a cheeky fucker, or it's a scam. He can afford to send his child to private school abroad but not fund accommodation? Unless he has any accommodating relatives who can help him out, why would he think complete strangers would pay for him and his daughter to live free in the UK? I don't think it would be any different for a woman, still an odd, entitled request. Bizarre.

ChristmasFluff · 20/08/2019 07:17

This reeks of scam, and it really concerns me that people haven't seen that already.

Imagine the situation were reversed - how likely would you be to throw yourself on the mercy of strangers (who could be ANYBODY)? And go and live somewhere as a domestic servant? Dragging your child along with you? No, you would change the plans majorly rather than this. Which is why this scenario is fake, and it has probably come up here before due to being a scam that's tried a few times.

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