To think that you would check your spam folder?

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I emailed a close friend a few weeks ago and he never replied. We are normally in contact every few days. I have developed feelings for him and I don’t really want to contact him again because I am interested to know whether it’s just me driving the friendship and will I ever hear from him again?

My fear is that the email went to spam and he thinks that I just haven’t been in touch with him. There are reasons it could have gone to spam (title, attachments).

My question is, if a good friend who is normally in contact with you every 2-3 days just disappeared, would you check your spam folder to see if you had missed an email from them?

Off the back of this thread I just checked my spam folder.
Apparently Rita is free for a bootie call tonight!

Maybe hes ignored it
Yes, I suspect so.

Why not text him and then go from there? because I am fed up of always being the one to initiate contact. I’m feeling like this is a one sided friendship and I want to know whether he’s interested in keeping in touch or not.

Then tbh it’s a total red herring if he received the email or not

If you’re always initiating contact and he doesn’t bother then I’m afraid that’s your answer

If he was interested he’d get in touch with you

Do you usually instigate contact? Whether he’s seen the email or not, I’d be wondering why he hadn’t got in contact with me if we were usually in such regular contact. You’d have thought he’d have emailed to check if you were ok/why he hadn’t heard from you?
Yes I tend to initiate contact. Yeah, I’m a bit hurt that he hasn’t been in touch.

Turn on the read receipt for emails you want to know has actually been seen.

Was it a declaration of undying love?
Ha! No, it was just a friendly chat.

Have you checked your sent folder?
Yes, it sent.

If you’re always initiating contact and he doesn’t bother then I’m afraid that’s your answer. If he was interested he’d get in touch with you
I think I don’t give him enough space and time to initiate contact but I need to know for sure.

Turn on the read receipt for emails you want to know has actually been seen.
Can the recipient tell though?

Turn on the read receipt for emails you want to know has actually been seen.

No no no do not do this! It pops up with a message saying “the sender wants you to confirm you’re received this email, send read receipt now?”. He will feel stalked!

It pops up with a message saying “the sender wants you to confirm you’re received this email, send read receipt now?”
I definitely won’t be doing this!!

I would just leave it now. If he's any sort of friend he'll get in touch soon. If he received the long email from you he's bound to reference it and probably apologise for not replying sooner. But no, I never check my spam folder and only ever do if someone specifically tells me an email has gone astray and might have ended up there.

I would just leave it now
Yeah, that’s my plan I guess. I just feel silly that he obviously meant a lot more to me than I did to him.

Oh wow, I’ve just seen your other thread OP

He really doesn’t sound in to you I’m afraid. Your behaviour is bordering on compulsive and out of control tbh

Your message was sent
To his inbox
He read it
And isn't responding
Because
Doesn't feel the same way

@EvilPostbox yeah I think so, theres another thread about him not replying a text message, this has been going on for weeks

It's certainly not healthy to be obsessing over somebody who has made it obvious they don't give a shit