AIBU Trying to get partner to go to their parents

[HappyParent2000]

I’ve been trying for weeks to get my partner to go stay over at their parents house.

Their parents isn’t far away and right near their work so isn’t out of our lives or anything.

I have asked them multiple times but they are so stubborn!

I can see they are tired, need a break and are now even signed off work. They need the break!

I can manage the child but they don’t want to go.

Am I being unreasonable to ask them to go for their own sake?

Eh?

Sorry if this isn’t clear, my partner need a break to recover from illness and is currently signed off work. I think spending a night or two out of the house will aid their recovery but they won’t go!

I do understand, they want to be home with us but I can see they can’t take the time to rest in a hectic house with a young family.

You sound incredibly bossy.

I don't think you can make someone stay somewhere else against their will. Sounds like you need a break from your partner more than the other way round! I would also like my DH to fuck off for a bit but ihe won't 😂

@bluebeck I was afraid of that, I guess I will drop my idea then.

Thanks for the feedback.

Yeah that's bonkers. Surely if he's recovering from illness he would prefer to stay in the comfort of his own home?
Sounds like you just want rid of him tbh.

Agree with PP, I would question your motives in trying to force them to go away against their will, it all sounds rather odd. If they are ill and need time to recover, why not ask them how you can help, rather than sending them away?

Yabu, would he even find it relaxing at his parents?
He should be able to recover where he wants, so unless he's actually said he wants to go, you should stop pushing it on him.

Hi all, thanks for the replies.

She still has her room over at her parents so would have been comfortable.

I am of course more than happy for her to stay at home, she really does need a break and I am doing all I can and have been doing for the two weeks she has been ill so far. She just isn’t getting any better as she has been busy doing all the things she normally does plus our child’s birthday party over the weekend.

It was never about getting her out the house but more about getting her a rest to recover from muscle injuries. Chasing and playing with a busy 4 year old around hurts ones back no end!

I will move on from this idea then and won’t try to convince her any further, I thought it would help but I will leave it as a nice offer for her if she ever wants it.

"I will leave it as a nice offer for her if she ever wants it"

Patronising much?

Why aren't you taking the four year old out of the house if they are tiring her out?

I will keep doing what I have been doing instead, it felt like an offer worth making but I see it’s not one to push.

Thanks for the feedback, I appreciate the honesty.

Just an update, all is OK with partner.

They were trying to kindly decline.

She will at least have 5 days off before he starts school as they are staying on holiday on my own as she goes home early.