So he’s a poster child extrovert?
They aren’t being annoying on purpose, that’s just how they’re built. External stimuli, lots of variation.
Doesn’t mean that the world has to pander to them 24/7, but they just aren’t going to develop a ‘rich inner world’ just cos we’d like them to.
My nearly 9 dd is similar. We manage her expectations a lot. Like the day before, reinforced every morning. We let her know which bits of the day (or week) she can look forward to having life ‘at her pace’. We do offer play dates, outings, exercise & activities that let her ‘be herself’. But we’re also clear that these are earned in the quieter periods. And that jobs/chores are necessary activities too. And that ‘rest time’ without chatter (or moaning or interaction) is going to happen.
Once she sees the day ahead is broken up into sections, she’s much better with it. She also likes to perform things (songs, plays, show off art, magic tricks, sports moves, etc). We promise her an audience ‘at 3pm’ if she practices alone for xx minutes beforehand. This has been very useful too. She’s (hopefully) learning that interactions are more satisfying when she’s put in some effort beforehand or ‘delayed gratification’. I’ve been known to put timers on and refuse to interact until it goes off. Start small, and build up the time.
In the end they want quality attention, not just weary parents pretending to care or watch or listen. They get the drift.
Extroversion isn’t disobedience. It’s a seperate and valid thing to be. It’s hard to understand unless you’ve had a kid who tells you quite seriously they’re talking to a tree, cos there’s no one else. 