To expect a card?

[Tigerwhocamefortea]

Wedding anniversary over the weekend. We’ve always bought each other cards (DH often having to pick one up on way to holiday etc as we are usually away but it still materialises). This year he didn’t bother. Said he didn’t think we were doing cards. We did go out for dinner to “celebrate”.

He also didn’t buy me one for Christmas or Valentine’s Day this year despite me getting him one every year.

AIBU to be hurt that he doesn’t care enough to organise a card?

Have a look for a sketch by Mickey Flanagan talking about cards!!

YANBU.

Even if he doesn't think cards are important, if he knows that you do he should make the effort to get one for you. It's not a lot to ask to expect someone to get you a card and write 'Lots of love from DH xxx' in it when he knows it's something that would mean a lot to you.

I think it kind of defeats the object of it if it’s an obligation. You may as well not bother. Me and DH just go for a meal or a weekend away. We don’t bother with cards and gifts! It’s all socially contrasted bullshit in my opinion!