To think he's flirting?

[RoxyHart13]

This has been playing on my mind.

A colleague was working from a different branch last week. He emailed me regarding working but started it with "I hope you're not missing me too much".

Is he flirting with me? It's been a while so I can't tell!

I don’t know, it sounds quite innocuous - it could just be a silly joke. Hard to say in isolation.

Sounds like he is having a joke!!

Hmm. He might be testing the water a bit. Are you hoping he is? Or isn't?

Sounds jokey to me - but impossible to tell without the wider context.

Doesn't sound like flirting to me. Sounds like a really normal lighthearted comment. I wouldn't have read anything into it at all, assuming he doesn't have form for flirting.

Could be flirting, could be just a friendly joke. Hard to say when you haven't said what your relationship is like with him. Just friends? Have you flirted before with him?

I wouldn't read that as flirting just friendly banter. Its the kind of thing we would say at work to each other or when we are going on holiday etc

Nope doesn’t sound like flirting. He could easily have sent that to a guy too.

Dammit. Wanted flirting. 😂

I get a feeling from him. I can't explain what. A lot of eye contact and lingering looks. We are quite friendly and he often seeks me out for a chat, but it's hard to tell if there's more to it or if that's just his way. All of our previous emails have been fairly boring and formal. Then that came out of the blue.

Obviously reading too much into it/hoping for something that isn't there.

Thanks all. Will get back in my box now.

Sounds like flirting to me!

Stop obsessing over this colleague. You’ve had dozens of threads now - and yes, despite your name changing, we know. Now either get help/hand in your notice so you can move on.

Well there are two ways you can reply.

1. Ha it'll be touch and go but we'll survive! - jokes back but nips flirting in the bud.

2. Of course! I'm crying in to my coffee as I type. - which leaves it a bit more open for him to respond but could be passed of as banter if you've got the wrong end of the stick.

Just sounds like a joke to me.

Oh dear. No, this is my first thread regarding this. Mumsnet can vouch for me. I have name changed recently but not for this thread, but because my other posts having been identifying.

I'm interested to read the other threads though.

If you were hoping that he was flirting then there's no reason that you can't initiate if you want.

“Yep, always missing you...”

Yes that sounds like flirting to me

Most emails between my colleagues are fairly abrupt even when we're friends. Putting a joke to lighten the atmosphere is definitely introducing a new tone to it

Tough to say

Reply in a similar tone - like TregunaMekoides says. Make it slightly jokey and lighthearted as well