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To ask for your most awful hospital ward companion stories?

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stripeyronnie · 18/08/2019 14:30

Currently on a postnatal ward. Only been here an hour. So far someone has eaten reheated curry which I can still smell. Next doors toddler is watching peppa feckin pig on loudspeaker and a different toddler is opening my curtain whilst playing with a fire engine with siren on. Luckily baby is used to being at home with similarly annoying siblings (we've been readmitted) so is sleeping through it all. DH has been dispatched home for earplugs and other things to keep me sane.

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AmIRightOrAMeringue · 18/08/2019 20:52

Post natal ward. Apart from all the snoring, phoning, tv watching etc (which i think the hospital do t want to stop since they get money for renting it out)

One young lady (about 20) had a very quick labour and had to call n ambulance when she was 9cm and has the baby when she got to hospital

Her sister and uncle came to pick her up. They were there hours and hours waiting for her to be discharged. Her uncle kept repeating on a loop really loudly that she was so much stronger than the other women on the ward since shed had her baby so quickly and recovered so well. Me and a couple of other women were hobbling around and shuffling to the toilet, he would continuously compare his niece to us saying how much better she was doing and how we were all much weaker than her and ooooh look at that one, she can barely walk!

I think he was trying to be supportive of her but insulting everyone else wasnt the best way to go about it

She also said she couldn't wait to see what colour the baby's skin was as she couldn't remember what race the father was. And stated she was going to refuse all tests incase they realised she still smoked. And ignored the safe sleeping advice as her new daughter slept next to her on the hospital bed

LaMarschallin · 18/08/2019 20:52

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Prawnofthepatriarchy · 18/08/2019 20:53
Biscuit
19lottie82 · 18/08/2019 20:57

I’m not poisonous

Yes, yes you are. Who pissed on your chips?

LaMarschallin · 18/08/2019 20:59

Regarding the vaping, LaMarschallin, my GP thinks it should be encouraged in hospitals. It's been strongly recommended to me in all circumstances. And vaping under the covers is an effective way to keep it away from others. Give it some thought before you get spiteful.

So your GP told you to vape under the sheets?

Rather than go outside.

Maybe you hear what you want to.

Vaping rather than smoking: yes.

Vaping under the sheets with random pals looking out for staff and seeing themselves as "rebels": no.

LaMarschallin · 18/08/2019 21:04

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AllTheWhoresOfMalta · 18/08/2019 21:17

Two occasions immediately spring to mind:

First is from when I was pregnant with my eldest. Horrific hyperemesis. On what I think was my fourth or fifth admission for fluids when I was around 16 weeks I got put on this catch-all gyaene ward. My bay was filled with variously- a fellow pregnant lady who had four older kids; an old lady who glowered at anyone who dared so much as pass her curtains too close and a woman suffering after surgery for a burst ovarian cyst. They were all annoying in at least some small way but fellow pregnant lady was the worst and spent all day that wasn’t visiting hours on her mobile to either her mum or her sister, talking loudly and swearily about how worried she was about “Dal” getting the kids down here “on the bus”. They’d often follow this up with some chat about how shit the local bus service was.

When it was visiting her older four kids and her partner would come and visit her (via bus) and spend the whole time moaning about how awful the journey up to the hospital had been (on the bus) and how much they hated everyone else they’d encountered that day (on the bus). Then she would resume the calls once her brood had left, usually with a quick 45min update to her mum or sister about what a terrible time her family had had getting up to the hospital that day (on the fucking bus).

I hated the other two less as they were quieter, but I had it in for Ovarian Cyst’s partner after he brought her a KFC up to the ward (just the smell of KFC even now is enough to make me gag) and me and Old Lady weren’t on the best terms after she got up one night and, I assume misjudging the space between the curtains/beds, fell on top of me. I was sound asleep and woke to the sensation of being crushed by a screaming lump inside a blue curtain. I was then promptly sick on the woman/curtain-lump and my stand-out memory is of the overhead lights snapping on as the ward sister struggled to get into my bay and her look of absolute horror at the old lady on the floor/curtains covered in my puke.

The other time was after the birth of the same child. It was a heatwave and there had been some kind of baby boom that week, so I was on a full to capacity postnatal ward. I had to have six blood transfusions in close succession so was chained to the machines for over 24hrs and had to have my husband pass me our baby every time she needed a feed or anything. Was utterly miserable as well as hotter than hell.

Because it was so full there wasn’t room to swing a cat and we were pinned in on both sides, surrounded by curtain: It was effectively a fabric cell. Unlike anything brick-built though, it sadly wasn’t in anyway soundproof.

On one side we had a couple who decided to celebrate their newborn with the movies of Adam Sandler, all watched back to back on a tablet with a very tinny speaker that was turned up to eleven. The soundtrack of Happy Gilmore has never been more irritating. I’d actually quite enjoyed The Wedding Singer until then, but I’ve never managed to get past the first ten minutes ever since because just the opening bars of You Spin Me Round make me want to commit bloody murder, let alone hearing Adam fucking Sandler sing it.

On the other side was a woman who didn’t speak any English. She had a partner who spoke a bit, but not loads, and as such every time the midwife came to come and see her what followed was a long, drawn-out five minutes of the midwife telling her something in English, them not understanding it, the midwife repeating it, the husband saying “we need translator” and the midwife replying that one was meant to be coming at the end of the week. Usually the midwife would then repeat the original thing she hadn’t been able to convey the first time again, just for good luck, but this time louder and slower. My favourite time was when the thing that the midwife had come in to tell the new mother had been that she had to keep her knickers on because she was bleeding on the bed so much that it had started to drip on the floor (!) DHs face was a picture.

This woman would also sing long, tuneless lullabies to her newborn in her native tongue, one of which had a repeated line that sounded, to our ignorant, English ears, exactly like “oh but you are my little Gary Barlow”. I have no idea what language she spoke or what she was really saying, but after the third straight hour of the lullaby one afternoon when her baby wouldn’t settle, me and DH were in fits of silent laughter, literally stuffing our fists into our mouths to remain inaudible, as she warbled “oh but you are my little Gary Barlow....” over and over again.

Precious memories of new motherhood.

cakesandphotos · 18/08/2019 21:24

Threads like this make me so pleased that the hospital I had DS in is private, en-suite rooms that even have their own thermostat. Utter bliss when you're at your most vulnerable. After he was born I transferred to our local hospital where not only are there private en-suite rooms but I was the only woman in with a team of 3 midwives. We're very fortunate in our trust

Veryveryverylate · 18/08/2019 21:26

@weegiemum, so you are now an expert on diabetes? Let me tell you how taking high sugar drinks are encouraged by endocrinologist and diabetologist, if you going to be admitted to a ward. As a type 1 diabetic I been told this numerous times. Well since diagnoses I only been admitted to hospital during pregnancy and birth only. I was told before the sugar tax to pack Lucozade in my hospital bag. According to my doctor that was even more important than nappies for baby. Why? Because prevention is better than cure. I'm really thankful for that advice my doctor gave me as when I was induced with ds1, my sugar went low and I asked a midwife for something to fix it. I was shaking at that point, she said ok. I pressed the bell again and she said she will make me toast soon. After waiting what seems like an hour (it was probably 5min or less) I remembered the Lucozade in my hospital bag. I treated it and after one hour and a half, the midwife turned up with the toast. She did applogies for the delay and said she got involved in an emergency. I said no thank you, I'm fine I remembered I had my own low sugar treatment. If low sugar is not treated quickly then it can turn into a medical emergency.

TrappedInThatBrightMoment · 18/08/2019 21:45

After an operation to reset my broken arm, I had a single room. Which would have been great except every time I closed my eyes to sleep an alarm went off (no one ever checked why) ALL BLOODY NIGHT. I was wrecked in the morning, which was when they put me on oxygen. The alarm had been an O2 saturation warning

Libbylove2015 · 18/08/2019 21:51

“oh but you are my little Gary Barlow....”

Where is the crying with laughter emoji when you need it!! Hehehehe

QueenOfPain · 18/08/2019 21:51

I was admitted to a gynae ward post surgical TOP when I was 17, had already had a terribly miserable time as had never wanted to be pregnant, had already been hospitalised twice with HG and for some reason there was a massive delay for the procedure, I finally got it done at about 15/40, and hadn’t left my house in any of that time because I was just so horrified with the whole thing. On the first night in hospital I was in a bay with an old woman with dementia who kept shouting “Ooooh, I could just sup a pint of bitter” over and over again, and another woman disappeared from the bay to be found collapsed in the bath, having OD’d on heroin that she must have snuck in. I sobbed myself to sleep that night because I felt so vulnerable and truly, truly not ready for the grown up world i’d accidentally inhabited by getting pregnant. My dad kept visiting me and bringing me flowers and had no idea why I was in, me and my mum had concocted a story about a bad kidney infection to keep the truth from him. I felt such an incredible amount of shame and bewilderment at the whole thing.

CorBlimeyGovenor · 18/08/2019 21:59

@ChrisPrattsFace

I was petrified about going into hospital and also suffer from severe anxiety! Have you had a hospital tour? That helped me a little. It was the fear of the unknown for me. Not knowing whether the birthing room would have a window (many didn't), being on a ward etc. My midwife flagged up my anxiety and I requested a private room (which I did get first time round). To be honest though, it was far far better than I'd anticipated. The staff were all really lovely. I felt very well cared for. I actually felt quite at home. I certainly feltcalm and relaxed. I had worried about being on my own overnight without my husband and whether I would feel panicky. In fact, having a baby with me was like having a companion. Second time round I started out in a privatete room, but was moved to a ward. Having the curtains around me was ok. It was my own little sanctuary in there. Honestly, it's the fear of the unknown that is the worst. But I promise you that it will not be nearly half as bad as you think it will!!

whereisthebloodypostman · 18/08/2019 22:25

On the induction ward, woman in bed opposite me had several visitors in - only your birth partner was supposed to be allowed? All men by the way. And when they went home she FaceTimed loudly and constantly until she was wheeled into the labour ward at 3am. I wouldn't even have minded if I could eavesdrop but she was speaking a different language. Sounded exciting though!

Prawnofthepatriarchy · 18/08/2019 22:48

There are several self-appointed experts on this thread, Veryveryverylate. Not sure it's worth explaining to those who jump to conclusions.

One of my DC has had Type 1 since he was 6. He nearly drowned after a supply teacher decided he shouldn't be given his Mars bar before swimming. Sometimes sugar is vital.

NameChangedForTheDay · 18/08/2019 23:09

I was admitted with a suspected DVT in 2003, aged 26. Mixed ward, of mainly elderly people.

One dear lady had dementia and constantly asking where she was and calling our loudly for help, I ended up taking her to the bathroom when she needed as the poor nurses were so stretched and the lady would often wet herself if she couldn't get help to the bathroom.

The man at the end bed had a horseshoe shaped scar on his scalp, was again really lovely but a bit confused. Every now and again he'd let out a blood curdling cry, then sob. It was chilling and heartbreaking. I found out after chatting with his wife that he had a terminal brain tumour, it had affected his memory, but every now and then he's remember his diagnosis and relive it over again. Really upset me. Really felt for this man and his wife.

Then there was the poor lady opposite, no family, no visitors. She looked so fucking sad. Being the youngest in the ward, I would run about after the other patients and asked if I could get her anything, she burst into tears and confided that was worried sick about her cats. She'd been in hospital three days and having been rushed off in an ambulance, didn't get to see her neighbour to give them her key and feed her cats. She didn't have a mobile, or the neighbour's number, nor anyone else to contact. I ended up getting my DH to take me out of the ward to "visit the canteen" and he drive me to the lady's street, where we knocked on the NDN's door, to tell them what happened and to give a key so they could feed the cats. The lady in hospital was so grateful. Bless her. The thought of cats starving though. God no.

Oh and get this!.... Three nights into this stay, I was going batshit from lack of sleep from the other patients and the nurse promised me a side room that was becoming free later that day, which I was grateful for.

Only for the promise to be broken, due to a famous American rapper called DMX (no, me neither!) being admitted and getting the side room. Apparently he'd collapsed after an asthma attack and being famous meant I had to have another sleepless night on the ward.

But, I must say. The nurses and HCAs were fantastic.

I was glad to get home for a rest.

NameChangedForTheDay · 18/08/2019 23:26

Oh and I fell ill in Mallorca and was rushed to hospital my now ex-DP was being a vile prick when I first complained of being ill, insinuating I was over-exaggerating and when an ambulance was called he was moaning to me as I was being led away that we were met to check out the next morning. In pain I sarcastically replied, "Well best you stay behind and pack then eh?!" And he did!!!

I was in tears by the time I arrived, in pain, alone and scared. I speak conversational Spanish, but limited and the staff's English equally so.

So when an English woman and man came into my room asking how I was and if I needed help with translation, I was so grateful. I thought they were volunteers and they were really helpful, hours later I was off my tits on morphine and waiting for blood results when they announced they were from Sun Sea and A&E (TV prog) and could they please film me!!!!

I really didn't want to, but I had nobody with me and was so scared of being alone. So I agreed. I recall being sat in a wheelchair crying my eyes out waiting for an MRI while they filmed me looking a total mess. Thank fuck it was never aired.

I was kept in for two more days and split with partner not long after.

feeona123 · 18/08/2019 23:30

Only been in hospital pregnancy related but with my son I was one of those annoying patients!

I had the worst cough ever, so bad it broke my hind waters with the force of the cough! My son slept like a dream the night he was born but I spent the whole night coughing and probably keeping the whole ward awake 🙁

movingontosomethingnew · 19/08/2019 00:01

I had lovely ladies on the post op ward (general) with me.

One struggled to get her dressing gown on her other arm so i helped her. She gave me chocolate her son had brought her. We shared each other's magazines.

They were so lovely and I often think of how they are.

WishingILivedOnAnIsland · 19/08/2019 00:27

@Hoppinggreen Confused behaviour like yours just contributes to poor conditions and understaffing for everyone else.

Ilovelala · 19/08/2019 00:40

Post natal ward three weeks ago. The woman in the next bay was sleeping on the floor while her boyfriend was in her bed. He snored for hours on end two foot away from me, and huffed and puffed and made passive aggressive comments about my baby crying during the night waking him up. I hadn't slept for three days following emergency c section and a traumatic labour and bit his head off terribly with no regrets. I was previously a supporter of men being able to stay and help their partners on these type of wards but now I'm probably not, there were kind respectful men also, one who kindly offered me assistance during a horrendous moment but the pros outweigh the cons for me now. It was hell.

Lemonlady22 · 19/08/2019 04:40

lots of experts on hospitals on here....
bed managers, ward clerks, nurses and doctors even....dont know how hospitals run without some of you not working there fulltime Hmm

AlliKaneErikson · 19/08/2019 05:22

I’ll never forget being in hospital when I was about 19. I was possibly the illest on the ward and the youngest by about 60 years! The ladies were lovely but seemed to think I was their servant! There was a lady next to me called Caroline who was about 90 and very sweet, to be fair. She’d be forever calling me ‘Alli, get my sweets for me’ or ‘pick up my magazine for me’ etc as she didn’t want to bother the nurses. I could hardly get out of bed I was so poorly. At night she used to sing hymns and preach sermons in her sleep. Aw, bless her- it’s quite funny looking back but really wasn’t when I was ill, in pain and wanting sleep.

Chocolatehat · 19/08/2019 06:11

Post c-section on ante-natal ward. I was hobbling down the corridor to my first shower. I was just beaten to the one working communal shower by a man in his boxer shorts. Even though the door said patients only he was quite happy to go in before me.

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