To think that some people's lives are

[IceAndASlice123]

As they portray on Facebook?

1. True soulmates with their partners
2. Lovely kids
3. Great job
4. Do lots of fun, social events
5. Lots of friends

Do you think its possible we tell ourselves nobody's life can be that good but actually it is?

I know someone who keeps posting pictures of her children with praising comments, e.g. I love these kids, they are my life etc. But in real life does nothing but shout at them. If I take pictures I don't feel the need to post it on social media.

an acquaintance on fb posts so much negativity I am gobsmacked, and not sure who exactly she is referring to. it is car crash.

Well why would anyone put the bad stuff on social media?

FWIW I tick all the boxes in the OP, my life has been pretty easy so far compared to most (I think!) and I won’t be shamed for sharing happy memories of my family and friends on social media.

I think people need to worry less about what other people are doing and concentrate on making themselves happy, rather than trying to construct a perfect life on social media

I agree the ones who post the most tend not to have the happiest lives.
I hardly use fb. Mainly it’s to update people who I don’t see on a regular basis.
When I do go on fb the only people I see posting how much they love their oh are the ones who’s oh have cheated!!!

Of course it's true, but a lot of it is choice.

1. not putting up with bad relationship and having settled. You read so many threads about meh boyfriends, how are these people ever going to be happy together?
2. that's luck, and a small (but important) part of how you raise them.
3. part hard work, part sacrifice, part not settling for a shit one.
4. that's just a choice: might sound great on paper, but some people are happier to go home and watch tv. How many time have you heard people saying once they are home and on their sofa at 7pm, they do not want to move from it during the week? Perfectly valid choice, but you can't have it both ways.
5. partly a choice too: some MN hate the idea of having friends over or staying at friends for the weekends, doing things for each other, and so on.

But of course anyone can have a good life - as long as you are healthy, it's all down to choices. I even know a few people with nasty medical issues who still manage to have a lovely looking life, I honestly do not know how they do it, the effort must be incredible.

I only post the happy stuff. I use FB to share the good times in my life with family & friends. Anyone that really knows us, knows we have overcome appalling personal tragedy so all the good times represent great depths of emotional courage, resilience & love. If people who don’t really know or care about us think I’m smug, fuck’em.

I post the good, the bad and the ugly on fb. My dd did something wonderful? Post it. My dd punched me in the arm in a tantrum? Posting it. My stomach made a sound only heard in forests? Yep, get it on fb. Want to see the fabulous spag bol I knocked up? Here it comes click But my social circle is small and we're all kind of on the same wavelength humour wise. We don't see it as "smug" but just what it is, sharing.

I'm with you Emmi.
I am a communicator and post almost daily on FB. My life is far from perfect but it's pretty good and I make the most of it.
Why do some people moan about others always being on SM when they can hide/delete/block them?

That’s very cynical.

And yet usually accurate sadly.

Honestly, I think some people’s lives are like that - but they have nothing to prove and aren’t the ones posting it all over Facebook.

You are describing my life, not that I'd splash it all over FB. I'm comfortably off and drive a nice car too. For all of those things I'm eternally grateful but I also have a life limiting condition that will end my life prematurely and my DM has just died.