To be annoyed at grandparents...

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Feel so fed up for my DD, she has 4 living healthy grandparents and the only one to bother with her is my DM!

Its her birthday in a couple of weeks, my DF had forgot and is going away that day and FIL hasn't mentioned it when DH has spoken to him. We don't speak to MIL so she stopped sending her a card to.

Growing up all my grandparents were dead I only had my nan, I thought it would of been different for DD having all living grandparents but they are shit and don't bother with her!

AIBU to be pissed of? I am also due another DD soon and feel like telling them all they can piss of if they think they are going to come round doting all over the new baby in front of DD1!!

Unless you fully discussed with your family your decision to have children and gained their agreement beforehand (which of course you didn't, it'd be ridiculous for anyone to do that) you can't assign them parts in in your DDs life. Be grateful for anything you do get, but YABU to be annoyed that anyone isn't fulfilling the role you assigned to them.

@MereDintofPandiculation actually one of the first memories I have meeting FIL is him saying "Now all we need is a GC that lives closer that we can actually see all the time" he clearly hasn't lived up to that all these years later!