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To feel like dp doesn’t fancy me

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Heartburn888 · 17/08/2019 23:33

6 months pregnant, been with dp for roughly 2.5 years. Sex life use to be really good until it died off and we starting having relationship problems but we seem to be back on track now after a very very trying time.

I just feel like he doesn’t fancy me anymore. Always turns down sex when I ask him or will say yeah yeah will do but nothing ever happens and I feel like a predator constantly asking. So I don’t ask as much.
He says he doesn’t masterbate either but I don’t know if he does or not because I don’t look at his internet history (or his phone at all) I know he’s not getting it from else where and I do trust him.
He is currently on anti depressants if this makes a difference?

He gets embarrassed talking about sex and recently said having sex while I’m pregnant is a bit of a put off for him and mentioned the whole thing about he doesn’t want the baby to see his penis (jokingly) but I understand what he is saying.

I’m struggling with how my body has changed and I am gaining weight (not massively) but it would be nice to still feel desired. He’s nice to me every day and compliments me - probably more now than he’s ever done - so am I just being a whinging whinge bag? Am I looking for a reason to whinge? I love him to absolute bits and want to show him but he gets embarrassed and obviously I don’t want him to feel like this before sex because it wouldn’t make me feel good afterwards if I knew he wasn’t really that into it.

Anyone had any similar experiences?

OP posts:
Aquamarine1029 · 17/08/2019 23:59

Antidepressants commonly absolutely destroy your sex drive, so it my very well be the cause.

GibbonLover · 18/08/2019 00:06

YY to the antidepressants, they are well known for putting men and women completely off the boil.

I can understand what he means about pregnancy putting him off, a male friend once told me he hated the thought of having sex right next to his unborn child IYSWIM.

Aquamarine1029 · 18/08/2019 00:10

Agree with @GibbonLover about the pregnancy aspect, too, and it's NOT that he finds you unattractive. There are lots of men who fear harming the baby during sex, which of course won't happen, but if that thought is in their head, penetrive sex may be off the table.

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