NC as this is v outing.
Separated with SBTXH after discovering he’d had cheated on me in the most disgusting, vile way, when I was heavily pregnant. Found out years later but a ton of lies followed before I got to the truth. It was the worst time of my life when I found out.
Finally getting my life back together and out of the dark place I was in.
I am in a much more financially comfortable position than him and before I found out what he’d done, we had a fantastic life with lots of fun outings and travel. My financial position comes from years of bloody hard work, while he worked half the hours with no stress, enjoying all the great things my hard work brought.
Now, I’m continuing to do the fun stuff and travel with the kids. We’ve had to tighten our belts a bit but I’m making sure they still enjoy much of the same life we had before.
Well he kicked up a massive fuss last night when I said I wanted to take them away over Easter (we had a fab summer holiday. He also took them away but on a much smaller budget).
Apparently it’s not fair that I can give them all these great experiences and he can’t afford to.
I’d argue it’s not fair that he messed our lives up because he couldn’t keep it in his pants. I was always faithful, loving, generous and devoted.
I’m not taking the kids on holidays to one-up him, I’m doing it because I want to continue having the same lovely life, with many happy adventures, like we did before, despite the fact their dad turned out to be a philandering arsehole.
I certainly don’t want to work my backside off and then be stuck at home during the school holidays to spare his feelings. He hardly gave our feelings a thought when he was putting it about while I was growing his child in my body!
Am I missing something here or is he taking the absolute piss to be annoyed about me taking the kids away??
Soooooo angry.
Should add - because we aren’t divorcing yet, we don’t have any official custody arrangement and we’ve both been quite flexible with one another since we split (9 months ago). I do know that the situation may change if we had a proper custody arrangement,