Doing work in the kitchen

[mexicangarden]

We have just knocked a wall down between the kitchen and diningroom. DH did this himself and worked really hard - we took a week off work to do it. I also worked really hard and also did housework, ironing etc. The walls have been plastered and I came in from work last night (work full time) and started painting. Did this for about 3 1/2 hours. DH can't understand why I want everything done as quickly as possible. I have been up since 6.45 and suggested he gets up at 8, has an hour to come to and then we both get on with the work. He says I am being a tyrant. He would start at lunchtime if it was up to him but I just want it done and to get rid of the mess. By the way, I am happy to paint and wallpaper - I need him to do the bigger jobs. AIBU in just wanting to get it done?

I think there are more important things happening in the world

Yanbu, but nor is he being unreasonable to want to have a relaxed morning and take it at a slower pace.

Is he a builder? Mine is and we had had bare stud wall between bathroom and hall for six months. It's now bare plaster for the last 3 months. Fencing in garden started a month ago after 3 years, and now half finished. Decking not started yet.

If we ever split up it will be over his timetable of 'what's the rush, it'll get done eventually'!

I can see both sides to be honest. We’ve renovated and done lots of DIY ourselves over the years. I’m definitely the one that’s all go, because I can’t stand things being left half done, but having had it argued back to me so many times over the years, I get your husband’s reasoning too. Losing a few hours off the schedule won’t derail your project and mean it’ll never be finished, but might mean that he’s not totally shattered by the whole thing. These ones who start a project and then leave it six months, though! I’d be spitting feathers.

My dp is a builder. On the strength of that we bought an old wreck of a house. Big mistake. Doing up our house is the last thing he wants to do after working all day on someone else's. two years later we have done one and a half rooms.
It's doing my head in.
To be fair, today he has done three separate jobs around the house which is a new record -so hopefully he is on a role and will go on to replaster the entire hallway on the back of it