To use MN instead of FB "report"

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I'm sure most of us are guilty of posting pish on FB. I'm slow to take offence because I don't have the energy but this is invading my thought for a few days now and I'm getting it out, here.
A fb friend (wife of former colleague) posts "you are in a mental hospital, tag your friends who fit the activity"
"Activity" goes along the lines of "licks the grass", "crawls on all fours" etc.

Much hilarity ensues ("yep I would do that")

This lady ordinarily posts "positive thoughts", "suicide awareness " "#itsoktobenotok" type stuff.

Here's my problem - my child is in a psychiatric unit so I think I'm biased and over sensitive but I am so so angry at people like her who are stupidly and blindly thinking they're helping the cause then posting shit like this and I don't know her well enough to have it out with her but I feel a Facebook "report" is cowardice on my part.
Basically, if you're reading this and you might recognise yourself in it, have a bloody look at yourself. That all I can do.

I'm so sorry that you are going through such an incredibly difficult time and I understand, as much as is possible, that this comment has infuriated you, but I think you have done the right thing posting here instead of confronting her on FB. Forget about people who are lucky enough not to give a second thought to this stuff enough to post it unless it helps you to unleash rage that needs an outlet. You sound like you could do with some respite- I truly hope that things improve for you and your son soon.

I have MH issues and these memes piss me off too, especially when they come from people who should know better. I did challenge it in a group once and the moderator stopped posting all of the "crazy" jokes.

Another friend wrote a brilliant response to these type of things, I wish I could remember what it said but it was about stigma.

I doubt if you report to Fb they will do anything.

Thank you @CharityConundrum You sound like one of my true friends who would exude kindness and talk sense into me! I think I just needed to hear other folk being annoyed on my behalf.

@Gingerkittykat you're right, it's not a new thing to post these daft memes. Her double standards are what got me this time. You can't post "suicide awareness" one day and "tag your pal in a MH hosp", the next.

I think the realisation that normal, kind folk can do this without thinking is my issue and I thought a wee nod here might be better than a big negative "report"

I do wonder how people grew up. I had two friends during my teenage years who were sectioned and another who killed themselves and god knows how many self-harming or with eating disorders.

Did some people grow up in a box?

But vent on here, it's not worth your time or energy.

Your friend is an idiot. Block her and find some better ones.

The wife of a former colleague. Unfriend her and be done with it. Some people have such sheltered lives they really have no clue, and completely lack empathy.

I think you should leave a one liner at the bottom of the comments along the lines of "how sensitive of you" or even, "but remember, it's ok not to be ok"

Sorry OP but nothing will happen to the post if you report it. The best you can hope for is to speak to whoever you're closest to that posted on there and say that you find it very upsetting and see if they see sense.

Is there a reason you haven’t deleted her yet?

Sometimes people do really insensitive things. I have cancer, there’s a lot of garbage about for us too.

If it is someone who is usually kind and well-intentioned, I would just ignore. If it is someone marginal to your life, then think about distancing yourself rather more.

If you do want to tell her she has been insensitive, do it in person, not in print. Any online comments need to be very restrained - ‘this one’s not for me - its ok not to be ok’

Unfriend surely? She probably won't even notice as it doesn't sound like you have any real life interaction

You know, I would challenge it. Maybe just with: ‘this isn’t in keeping with posts about suicide awareness and it’s OK not to be OK. It could well be quite hurtful to those actually suffering with MH issues.’

It is exceptionally insensitive of her.

Have gone with "Unfriend"
Needed a kick up the bum!
Thank you!!

Glad you unfriended her.