A bit sad? Child meeting new 'dad'

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A relative of mine has 3 children by 3 different fathers (this is relevant. I'm not judging even though it may sound like I am). She has recently been seeing somebody new and posted on social media a picture her daughter aged 8 drew. It was a drawing of her (the Mum) and the new boyfriend with a caption reading 'will you be our new daddy?'. Apparently this is the first thing the daughter asked the guy when he met the children, which was around a month after they met.

Aibu in thinking this is just a little bit sad? I understand that relationships fail and your children having different fathers certainly isn't the end of the world, but am I wrong to just find it strange that this should be the child's first thought when meeting a new man? . And that, of course, this could well be a reflection of her own father's (not the best) parenting.

I taught at quite a rough school once where this sort of thing happened regularly. One of the children bought in their holiday snaps to share with the class featuring their ‘new dad’, another child in the class gave them a once over, gestured to ‘new dad’ in one of the photos and declared ‘I’ve had him, he’s crap’ shock

My mum was a teacher and she can remember two boys in the playground starting a conversation with “When your dad was my dad ...”

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That’s not really the same situation though is it?
A family I know the biological dad did a runner before the birth. The mum got together with a man and married a year or so after the birth. They had another child. The first baby never knew another man in their life and he became ‘dad’. It was only when the first baby was 16 did they sit him down and explain. I think the father actually adopted him.
It’s an entirely different circumstance to what the OP is saying.

Whats her name katie price-i think its sad and damaging to children to do this-they dont know if theyre coming or going with these men

I was just coming on to say the same as Owlbethere typical no judgment on the useless fathers who have disappeared and that’s why these children are looking for other father figures. Yes not great introducing a child to a man after a month but it doesn’t sound like any of there own dads are around and that’s why they are probably hoping the new man will be there “dad”

If the child sees the dads of her siblings being called dad she may just see men her mum interacts with as dads. Mum however should be correcting her.

My son calls my (female) cousin Daddy sometimes, she looks after him sometimes and I know in his head people who look after him are called Daddy. We made a special name just for them to use and that has reduced the frequency of her being called Daddy.