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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To think this lady was crazy?

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Sexnotgender · 16/08/2019 18:26

I crossed a busy ish street earlier with my husband and baby in his pram.

We were chatting and not really paying attention. Got to the other pavement and a lady rolled down her window and started yelling about a box.

I was confused and she was pointing to the road and yelling you need to pick up the box you just walked passed it.

I looked and there was a recycling type box in the road that I hadn’t noticed when crossing.

I was going to go pick it up as it was in her way but there was lots of traffic coming the other way so she stropped out of her car and moved it while shouting about how we walked passed it

How is any of that my fault

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AmIThough · 16/08/2019 19:07

@brightfutureahead there were two adults

Juells · 16/08/2019 19:08

Neither of whom were the skivvies of car drivers

WilsonandJackie · 16/08/2019 19:11

I don't understand why it's so shocking that the OP didn't see it? Surely she'd have been looking to her side when crossing the road rather than down at the floor...

brightfutureahead · 16/08/2019 19:13

brightfutureahead there were two adults

And they were on a road. There was traffic. Nobody has time to faff about picking boxes up when they’re trying to get across the road safely. And nobody knows what was in it either.

The woman had no right demanding they pick the box up.

SoupDragon · 16/08/2019 19:13

Since when did doing something helpful make a person a skivvy?

Juells · 16/08/2019 19:14

When you're crossing a road minding your own business, and someone thinks you should start clearing up litter

brightfutureahead · 16/08/2019 19:16

When you're crossing a road minding your own business, and someone thinks you should start clearing up litter

And then they’ll act all surprised if they’re rightly told to fuck off.

Grumpelstilskin · 16/08/2019 19:19

What the hell has some litter or discarded box got to do with the OP. There are some truly weird MN posters on here. I'd have ingored that loony driver and walked off.

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Sexnotgender · 16/08/2019 19:24

And then they’ll act all surprised if they’re rightly told to fuck off.

I wasn’t rude to her, I didn’t actually say anything. I was just a bit bewildered as initially I had no idea what she was talking about and then couldn’t actually cross the road to get to the box and I’m not really big on yelling at strangers in the street.

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MRex · 16/08/2019 19:25

I might or might not move the box if there were two of us with the pushchair, probably largely based on how easy it was to kick out of the way assuming it's dirty and empty. I definitely wouldn't move it for a driver shouting at me and if there was someone with the pushchair then I definitely would do it if I was asked nicely, unless it was very heavy or very dirty. So overall YANBU OP.

GoBrookeYourself · 16/08/2019 19:37

I’m surprised at those saying you should’ve just moved it- I would’ve had it not been for the rude attitude of the lady yelling. She could’ve asked nicely; you had no obligation to pick it up and would have been doing something nice by doing so. She was being VU to speak to you the way she did and I don’t think you behaved badly at all.

So if anyone else was in that situation and someone was telling you rudely, not asking you politely, to do something, you would’ve done it and not even questioned her attitude? I doubt it. AIBU really surprises me sometimes.

brainstormer123 · 16/08/2019 19:38

Why THE FUCK would anyone pick up anyone else's rubbish? You wouldn't walk your dog and think 'oh there's someone else's dog's shit there, I best pick it up' OP you are absolutely not in the wrong!

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Sexnotgender · 16/08/2019 19:44

It wasn’t someone else’s rubbish. It was one of the recycling type boxes you leave out to be collected.

And I was perfectly willing to actually go and get it and pop it at the side of the road once the traffic had cleared.

This wasn’t good enough though for her. I seemingly should have walked out into traffic to stop everyone and move it out her way.

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scarbados · 16/08/2019 19:57

We were chatting and not really paying attention.

I don't care either way about the box. I do care about this.

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Sexnotgender · 16/08/2019 20:03

I don't care either way about the box. I do care about this.

We’d checked. The road was totally clear of cars. What exactly was the issue?

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SnuggyBuggy · 16/08/2019 20:05

I don't remember the check for boxes part of the Green Cross Code

JustTwoMoreSecs · 16/08/2019 20:14

Lol at drivers thinking pedestrians should stop traffic to take an obstruction off the road. The same drivers that rarely deign to stop for 10sec to let them cross. Yeah they can stop and remove the obstruction themselves.

Lairymary · 16/08/2019 20:33

So the road was clear of cars to cross but too busy to pick up the box? Presumably the box was blocking the road so that shouty woman couldn't drive her car which means no vehicles were about to run you over. Not that I really care but be observant enough when escorting your child across a busy/ non busy road and do the decent/helpful thing and remove an object blocking the traffic. If it was that close to you for you to consider retrieving it, it would have been close enough to see it was there to begin with!

Corna · 16/08/2019 20:36

Like we'd ever see a car stop to help with a pedestrians blocked pavement. Why on earth should you be expected to step into the traffic to sort out her problem?

Does she do this to people in the supermarket? Why are some car drivers such entitled twats then turn into normal people out of their cars?

Lairymary · 16/08/2019 20:36

Although shouty woman should have maybe asked in a nicer way, there's no need to be a dick.

Crunchymum · 16/08/2019 20:40

No the other driver wasn't "crazy" but she could have been more polite.

I've parked my pram on the pavement before to remove debris large branch and big bag of rubbish on separate occasions from roads (I am a non driver but even I know that a big recycling box is a hazard!)

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Sexnotgender · 16/08/2019 20:41

Please explain where I said I was too busy to pick up the box?

After I’d crossed the road the box was on the side furthest away from me. There was a stream of traffic on my side by that point and shouty lady was on the far side. I’d have had to stop traffic on my side and go retrieve the box from her side. Why exactly is that my job? I didn’t see it when I crossed.

Please explain exactly how I’ve ‘been a dick’?

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Derbee · 16/08/2019 22:38

YADNBU
Why on earth should you have picked it up?! Left your baby in the road to pick it up? Left your baby on the pavement to pick it up? Granted there were 2 adults, but if you’d wanted to pick it up, fair enough. Her shouting at you for something that you didn’t need to do makes her rude and crazy.

TheSultanofPingu · 16/08/2019 22:49

You weren't a dick Op.
It sounds as though you would have to rely on traffic to stop to let you into the road to retrieve the box.
There was a thread started only yesterday by a motorist complaining about the sheer numbers of dangerous drivers on the road nowadays, yet people are annoyed when a pedestrian, the most vulnerable of road users, won't walk into the road for them.
I live on a busy road, and I have on occasion moved things into the pavement after seeing cars manoeuvre round the object, but I think the Op is getting a hard time here.

RaisinsRuinEverything · 16/08/2019 23:23

She shouldn’t have asked a person in charge of a baby to pick the box up. So YANBU. Don’t worry about it.

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