Rude child

[ChoudeBruxelles]

At mil who was looking after niece (6) Mil suggested that niece showed me the bag she bought for her earlier. Niece threw the bag towards me. I said that i didn’t want to see if If she was going to throw it at me and would look when she was ready to be nice. Dh reckons I was being harsh and unreasonable. Was I?

No, not unreasonable at all, assuming you used a calm and neutral tone.

No - your actions were very reasonable in my opinion

You could have corrected her in a nicer way. I'm not perfect, I'm always reminding myself to model the behaviour I want to see. You were rude too unfortunately - as am I often, I'm not judging. What I mean is do correct the rude behaviour, but do it kindly.

Nope. Not unreasonable in my opinion.

Not unreasonable at all. Really poor behaviour from niece.

I think I would have said 'why are you throwing your nice new bag, you will spoil it.... Can you pass it to me nicely please' but I don't think what you said was that harsh, but I would maybe have been more careful because the child isn't a blood relation to you.

Yes just said in a normal voice that I didn’t want to see if when thrown to me and would look when she was ready to show me nicely.

Totally not.

It depends. Did she throw it at you, or did she just throw it expecting you to catch? What was her intent?

Exactly how I would have handled it. I’m shit hot on manners can’t stand rude kids.

Bluntness100 at the floor near my feet. Not the intention for me to catch it.

FindaPenny I don’t see that it matters whether it’s a blood relation or not. I’d have said the same to ds at that age (although he’d have also have got told off for being rude) and would say the same to friends children.

I sort of meant, what you, yourself have pointed out in relation to your own ds. I would modify my tone and what I say depending on my relation to the child. If it was my own child they would have got a telling off, someone on my side of the family a telling off, but less than my own child and someone on my husbands side I would be a bit more careful. That's just me though

If she threw it at you not to you, then you did the right thing, I'd have done the same.

@ChoudeBruxelles name change?

Think that was the perfect way to deal with it, to be fair

Yes - old name. Changed back