To think this mother was rude?

[Mummyto1little1]

So if you didn't read my previous AIBU thread you won't know but my partner has a broken hand.

I had to go to the shops today and he wanted to come as he's bored at home because he can only watch TV.

So we were waiting to get served and the lady in front of us had 2 children one was maybe 13/14 and the other was about 10/11. They were arguing and pushing each other and the mother didn't seem to care as she was standing there letting them argue.

Then one of them pushed the other into partner and he said to them can you watch what your doing because you bumped into my arm (he didn't shout or anything). Then the mother turned round and said how do you shout at my children. Whilst they continued to push each other and argue. Then she said if you don't want to be bumped into you should've stayed at home. (Not many people were in the shop or town as it was about 9am).

AIBU to think this mother was rude?

Not only rude but also a complete dick.

She's an idiot and a crap mother

What did you/he say after she said that comment? Seems like an odd thing to say!

Yes, of course she was rude.

"No wonder they're growing up to be brats with your wonderful parenting"

No, she was completely reasonable, not to mention correct, her children sound angelic, and your partner should undergo carbon freezing until his hand is healed.

You are only unreasonable if you let her get away with talking to your partner like that. Put her back in her box.

Go all dirty dancing on her about personal space.

Unfortunately it's a sad fact of life that we have to share the world with such oxygen thieves and their spawn.

You are not being unreasonable!

Of course - she is a rude balloon brain.

Sorry why can he only watch telly? I'm wondering of your dh did actually shout. 2 sides to every story and all that.

^ He has BROKEN hand

He can only watch TV because he can't go to work or do anything else because he has a broken hand

He didn't shout.

Yes she was rude and your husband was right to say something but to be fair to her they were probably doing her head in, that's why she snapped at your DH. I think most people with kids can relate to a similar situation.

said how do you shout at my children.

His answer should have been Because they're ill-bred brats.

After twice quietly asking older children not to push in front of the little ones at Edinburgh Zoo my OH let rip, it certainly got their breeders to put their phones down! Apparently 'we don't use negative language to our children' to which he replied 'well, it's working really well, isn't it.'

So what if he did shout?!

I wouldn’t blame him for shouting 😂 I would have

She behaved atrociously. Steer clear of her if you see her again - not all there I think.

My partner asked her what's he meant to do then and if son was arguing or pushing his future sibling he would atleast tell them to stop and she said not parent her children and leave them be because kids are only kids once and then said went on at him saying people like him think they have the right to interfere. 😂

YANBU to think the woman was rude. But YABU to think he can only watch TV. With a broken hand it’s possible to do online courses, read books, and do many things far more interesting than going to the shops.

Great username @makingmammaries 😄

Yes, the bit I find puzzling is about him being so bored he wanted to go to the shop because he can only watch a TV because of a broken hand. I get that he may not be able to work or cook, but there’s quite a lot else apart from TV, surely...?

He said he can't do anything except watch TV because when he isn't working and we don't go out anywhere he plays on the xbox but he does cook and help with son aswell. And on the weekends when we don't go out together with son he goes out with his friends to play football or something (he doesn't drink so doesn't go out with them for a drink).

Maybe he could avoid queues and wait in the car? After my big accident and when I was just starting to walk again, my dh walked in front of me to protect me! If anyone came near, he was very aware and put himself between us.

The woman was rude, it not up to her if your DH wants to be in a shop. Would she say the same if her kids knocked over an elderly or disabled person?

Did he have his hand in a sling?