I wanted a naughty night away and DH is snoring next to me

[MrsTumbletap]

DH and I planned a night away and arranged childcare.

I bought some things from lovehoney to spice things up a bit, showed him earlier in the week he seemed keen.

But tonight instead of just going out for a few drinks and coming back to have a good night we ate too much food, felt really full and tired and now he is snoring and I'm on bloomin mumsnet.

AIBU to be super pissed off right now?

YABalittleU. You say you both ate too much and felt full and tired. Doing unspeakable acts on a full stomach is bloody uncomfortable. Can you wake him up early tomorrow morning?

True but I would have been up for it if we had waited 20 minutes, he was asleep within 3 minutes of his head hitting the pillow.

Now I'm sitting in a fancy hotel thinking what a waste of bloody time, money and childcare I might as well be at home.

Gently wake him up?

There's always the morning.

I'm too pissed off now, I messed about brushing my teeth getting changed etc and he kept waking up seeing I was clearly awake and then falling back asleep.

So now I'm half upset/half pissed off. Just dont know if I'm more pissed off at the situation or with him.

Don't really feel like putting on sexy undies and getting out the handcuffs in the morning light when I'm sober. So packed it back in the case and I'm bloody embarrassed I even got that stuff in the first place now.

Just go back to rushed quickies once a fortnight when the kids aren't about, yeay the joys.

Haven’t you had a nice evening together anyway? And you can have a leisurely brekky without being woken by kids needing theirs. You can still enjoy being away from home without needing to swing from the chandeliers.

Poor guy is obviously knackered if he’s turned down the chance of sex for an early night.

Or there are other problems in your relationship, which won’t be solved with some handcuffs and naughty knickers.

If my DP was pissed off at me for being too tired for sex I’d be really upset. I’d hope that spending time with me was the prize, not just a shag.

Use the toys yourself , that might wake him up

On a serious note I'd be pissed off too!

Get your naughty on by waking him up with it?

I'd be narked, too. But, unless he has a lot of form for being lazy and selfish, it would be better to get over it. This is the trouble with having only a limited amount of time to have fun (whether that's sexy fun or any other sort of fun) - sometimes, despite all the planning and anticipation, someone is just not up to it on the day.
You're not wrong to be disappointed, but he's not wrong to be too tired to play.

I would masturbate very loudly until he woke up

No advice, but God, I need a naughty night away. I never go out anywhere anymore!

I'm not sure how old your kids are, but perhaps spend an hour or so together, after they've gone to bed and handcuff him the the headboard for a bit of sexy time.

This is why you should ALWAYS Fuck First

Or fuck whilst you're eating... it's not sexy, but can be done. He can stuff his face full of McDonald's chips, whilst banging away.

That happened to me last year, I booked a lovely hotel in Chester and my other half fell asleep. To be fair he does have a very demanding job so I did forgive him eventually.

He sounds absolutely shattered! If he was waking up and going back to sleep even though he was in a promise I doubt he could help it!!

I know what you mean about sexy undies & handcuffs not being quite the same stone cold sober st 8 am, but that doesn’t mean you can’t otherwise enjoy it without the fear if the kids bounding in any minute

So unless gesbinly shattered because he’s been out with the guys every night for the past week or out ‘doing his mysterious hobby’ and it’s just exhaustion from working,& life with kids etc then I think you need to accept he’s shattered & it’s not a deliberate snub -get some sleep and enjoy yourself in the morning!

The night is young! Fall asleep and let the middle of the night find its way. Or the morning. Wonderful things can still happen in a hotel room.

I mean, fall asleep naked.

Champagne breakfast and morning delight maybe?

Forgot to come back and say thank you ladies. I took your advice and got over it as DH doesn't have form for stuff like this, so he was just knackered and yes I had eaten too much too.

We had a great day the next day and made up for it the next evening. I'm glad for your feedback as I would have been shitty with him the next day if I hadn't listened to you all so you saved the day!

Glad it worked out. We are def before dinner sex people. Food and wine just make me want to sleep

Yes the article @FuriousVexation posted, has changed my outlook on this now, definitely need to do that first, we have been doing it wrong for years!

Ah that’s brilliant! MN can be harsh sometimes when you are being unreasonable, but I’m glad you took it in the spirit it was intended and moved on from it.

Definitely did and your post gave me food for thought, if I was too knackered and my DH gave me a hard time cos he didn't get a shag I would be upset too.

I think I had had too much to drink (and eat!) and was annoyed/upset, then MN gives you the opportunity to ask other women and it does make you think and step back a bit.

Sometime MN is like a little dose of therapy!

He he sounds familiar.

Was the beginning of the end here. hopefully you were just gluttons

We always shag first!
Otherwise DH falls asleep and I’m an eater and too full.
Then fuck again in the morning