To worry I'm going to lose my friends

[Hannah4banana]

My 3 best friends have just had babies within 6 months of each other. I've been the doting auntie, organised all the baby showers, visited in hospital and bought baby pressies and visited. I'm so happy for them all!
We all went out last week for our first catch up in ages and I felt so excluded from the conversations. I get it, they are all excited and I am too for them but talking about awful birth stories, nipples and stitches was a bit much for me.
I love my friends but I'm worried this is going to seperate us. It's not my choice not to have children and they are aware of my history but I don't want to lose my best friends esp at a time when I need them.
Am I being daft and this is naturally going to happen? I'm not a party girl, I'm happily married and met them regularly for coffee and a chat before the bubbas. So scared of being excluded because I dont have a baby, I've accepted I can't conceive and they know that too. How can I juggle being a good friend when I have nothing to offer the conversation anymore. I'm so gutted. Thanks for reading x

Unfortunately, in my experience, this is inevitable. You may be excited and happy for them but soon the conversation will become boring as you can’t join in.

it's like anything with friends...ask questions, show your interest. As the babies grow, the women will slowly return more to themselves.

It's hard and I hope they can learn to be more sensitive to you. But you could have a big part in the lives of the children...and grow to love them as they become more interesting.

Are you going to have fertility treatment or consider adoption or have you decided not to go down those routes?

Also, have you told any of your friends you're feeling sad about it all?

Ah, sympathies, this is difficult for you.

I would say, give it time. And maybe think about seeing them individually, rather than all together.

But it might not be a bad idea to open yourself up to new friends as well.

Definitely see them individually. I find there’s less baby talk!

I think it might be tricky for two or three years but should get better after that. Me and my friends drifted but are closer again now.

I've got a really good job and I'm happy in life. Me and my hubbie have decided what will be will be. It's just a big readjustment period with my friends. I cried lots but I'm in a good place now.

Thank you, I'm glad to hear it might get better

Also, my best friend isn’t going to have children and she is godmother to my daughter-they have a really close bond and my friend frequently tops me in my daughters list of favourite people! The fact she doesn’t have dc is fab now as it means she can still easily come to see us and I see her more often now actually. We always offer to pay fares etc.