To go on holiday instead of to a housewarming?

[Lily2811]

My friends have just bought their first house and mentioned to me last week the date that they will probably have their housewarming. I'm on AL that week and OH has just asked me if I want to go on a little holiday. Would I be unreasonable to go and miss the housewarming? There's been no official invite yet. Life's been hard recently and I feel like we could do with it.

Shame you'd forgotten that was the date that your husband had already booked the holiday.

Holiday beats housewarming any day.

Um, YANBU! Holiday trumps someone else’s housewarming! Have you already said you’ll go to the housewarming?

Of course it is fine. People on MN worry about too much trivial shit IMO!

Yanbu just explain that you might be away and send a nice card!

@Apolloanddaphne I have social anxiety so what might seem to be “trivial shit" to you might be serious concerns to others.

@BendydickCuminsnatch I love the name hahaha. Basically we were in a conversation with me and her and a few other friends and I asked how things were with the house because they're decorating and she was like yeah we will probs have the housewarming on [DATE] and I put it in my phone diary. I told her I was on AL so would probs be able to come, I work a lot of weekends so miss a lot of social occasions. And then today OH said he'd asked his manager for some time off in the same week so that we can have a break.

Of course go on holiday. Your response should be that you can't wait to see their new home but you are already planning a holiday that week as you are on annual leave.

Holiday is a good enough reason to miss a party. I'd probably let the friend know now, that you'll be away on the suggested date. If she hasn't properly invited yet, they could still be considering dates anyway.

Don't worry about it. Enjoy your hol!

@Lily2811 It is just as well you have me and other more robust posters to give you a gentle shake then, isn't it? (kindly meant)

Holiday trumps friends' housewarming any day in my books. Plus it was mentioned as a 'probable' date, could well be that nothing comes of it.

@Apolloanddaphne yes that's why I need fellow mumsnetters to tell me when something is OK socially and when it's not!

A holiday trump's most things in my books. Go on holiday. Don't worry about not going to the party. I think because you're anxious, your blowing it out of proportion. 💐

Don’t worry about it OP, I’m sure she’ll understand. Just explain then holiday is a last minute thing and that DH has surprised you. People don’t take offence at things like this ( unless they’re nuts, which I assume your pal isn’t 😅 )

I wouldn't even be upset if I'd given you the date and then you booked a holiday. It's a housewarming, not a funeral. Go enjoy yourself on your jollies!

Go on the holiday!